Daily Life of a Gay Escort in Montreal

Confirmation For New Appointments Required

2011-12-15T18:41:00.001-05:00

I get a lot of appointments where the guy doesn't show up. This is normal, and most common with those I haven't seen before. Because of this, all new clients will be reminded to confirm the appointment by phone 1 hour in advance. If I don't get this confirmation call, I make new plans. Life is too short to be waiting for someone who doesn't plan on showing up.

What do I do if they do show up, without confirming? I let them know that I was waiting for their call, but no confirmation means no appointment. I reschedule if I can on the spot. But this rarely happens.

Today I was waiting for a confirmation call at 5pm for a 6pm appointment, but no call came through so I went to the gym instead. It feels good to know that I didn't waste my time waiting for a no show!

Now the problem is guys will make an appointment, but not feel that it is set so they can easily back out without letting me know their intentions. With call tracing/blocking technology, email and voice recognition, these guys will not be given a second chance to make an appointment. This may seem harsh, but in my experience, if they don't show once, they don't show up the second time either. Also from experience, a no-show also is not the ideal client (if he actually arrives). It is best to focus on the good clients that arrive on time, everytime than the fish that got away. Im sure someone out there gets a thrill of making appointments with escorts, and never going to see them. Sad, but cheap thrills are still thrills. I actually find that blocking these people is a big thrill for me too! Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

Since it is all a big game, why not have fun?

As the calendar year ends, I pause to think about the years of escorting behind me. In that time I have sucessfully weeded out the guys who demand unprotected sex, while holding on to the clients that I like the most who are not too demanding and generous. Tipping is still a great way to show appreciation, and I like to know I do a good job.

I want to thank all my guys who have been showing their appreciation to me, and I hope you all enjoy the holidays.

But I intend to squeeze in another post sometime before the end of the year.

Thanks, and keep in touch!

Ronielle Out

Becoming An Escort, Part 3

2011-12-02T17:28:00.001-05:00

Assuming you have your photos and texts ready, now you need to come up with an advertising strategy.

What kind of money will you be starting with? This matters a lot because you need money for a cell phone, and for advertising. Print advertising is usually the most expensive, especially if a photo is going to be used. Many potential clients use local escort ads in print, and will most probably get you clients faster than with internet ads. This is based on my experience, but the world is changing fast so perhaps now internet is faster than print. Please note that there is a lot less people on the internet than you think (we who practically live on the net think everyone else is too!) Most potential local clients are part of a group of men who frequent regularly sex workers, and they usually do not like to leave any electronic trail on their computer, or just basically not technological.

That said, select a picture for your ad. Include your face if you can, because cut-off heads are not attractive. I understand the need for discretion, but that is a decision you need to make for yourself.

Select a name for yourself. I recommend using your own name, because if and when you decide to tell a long term client your real name (somewhere down the line), it has a negative effect on the working relationship. That is also your choice. Being yourself with clients has a lot of advantages over the long run, such as freely sharing personal stories and increasing intimacy without worrying that you will blow your cover. Clients can sense deception, since they are often deceived by escorts lying about price, physical description, you name it. A lying escort doesn't keep clients for long, and usually has a hard time keeping his lies straight.

Look at as many escort ads in different local publications as possible. The ones which has a lot of male escort ads should be considered first. I know that there will be a lot of competition should you place an ad along side the other escorts, but consider the situation from a client's perspective. A client will have most likely studied the current list of ads and has been watching the same section in the publication for a long time, years even. He knows all the ads already, and only looks for changes now. Your new ad will catch his attention, and you need to change the ad often to continue to catch his attention. Catch his eye with a good picture, and engage his mind with well written text. Be different. A string of physical statistics really is boring, because it doesn't describe anything important.

Getting an ad together takes time, and will probably get easier with time. The longer you spend studying and creating a good ad, the better you get at targeting the right group of men you would consider to be your ideal clients.

More on this in the next post.

Becoming An Escort Part 2

2011-11-25T19:03:00.001-05:00

Continuing from the last post, and assuming you are both sexually open to a large variety of people AND physically attractive to most people, you are ready for the next important step to becoming an escort: finding clients.

Working for an agency is an option for those who want to give a part of their earnings in exchange for getting clients. This is much easier than being independant, which involves creating advertising and answering messages directly from potential customers. Another advantage with agencies is that the escort can have more discretion in terms of identity, because only the agency is advertising for their behalf, unlike an independant escort who advertises himself with his chosen name and hopefully their own pictures and contact information. But since I have never worked for an agency because I did not feel the need for secrecy, I will concentrate on becoming an independant escort.

Being independant in terms of escorting entails a lot of work in many different areas, from public relations in answering phones and electronic messages, to photography (for advertising) and graphic design (creating new ads and meeting submission deadlines), and the usual diet and fitness to ensure career longevity (as clients prefer to return to healthy looking escorts).

Selecting the right forms of advertising (in print and internet profiles) is also a challenge, since too much advertising can cost more than what you are making, especially in print form. This workload forces the development of successful business skills, which can be used in other jobs if and when you decide to pursue other forms of employement.

First step is to prepare media displaying your body and talents, in the form of pictures and text. You can set your camera on automatic, or get help from a friend. Good pictures are essential, so take a large amount and take pictures often. If you don't like getting your pictures taken, get over it. Escorts without pictures don't get the volume of clients needed to stay afloat (assuming that this will be your primary income). If you don't have pictures (or good pictures), potential clients will wonder why. They may ask themselves that there is possible a valid reason for the lack of photo, and they may be right. If you are good looking, use it as a selling point.

Write text about what you can do sexually, and other things about you that is interesting. Make yourself as 'human' as possible, not a generic escort listing, unless you are making a text-only ad. The more effort you put into writing a good piece about yourself, the more sophisticated you appear to potential clients. Avoid avoiding capital letters and punctuation, and fix spelling mistakes when you find them. This may seem basic, but once in a while one stumbles upon an ad that makes the escort appear really dumb and uneducated. Your future clients are most likely highly educated and smart, so communicate in language they will understand and appreciate.

Once you have photos and texts highlighting yourself, you are ready to create ads and online profiles to promote yourself.

To be continued!

Ronielle Out

Becoming An Escort

2011-11-11T18:34:00.001-05:00

Many guys have asked me about being an escort, and many guys have shared with me their escorting experiences. But this post will be gear to those who want to know how to become an escort, tips that shaped my own career and my life so far.

Being comfortable with sex with strangers is a no-brainer. My test is that you should take public transport, and ask yourself who you would be able to have sex with from the selection around you.

If you find yourself being too selective, sex work is probably not for you. In the beginning, a new escort should take as many different clients as possible to gain experience. The biggest mistake a new escort can do is to eliminate his clientele to a very small niche to start with. This means taking only good-looking clients, for example. Good escorts can always find a positive quality in their clients and focus on that. A bad escort will not only look for faults in his clients, but will also fail to hide his micro-expressions of disgust that an average client can pick up. Looking and focusing on positive and attractive traits allows a better interpersonal atmosphere, since your client is probably doing the same thing to you.

Physical appearance is also a major issue. Although there is a client for almost every type of body type, looking healthy and fit is the most common by far. Natural escorts are those whose personalities are naturally suited for sex work, and that usually includes guys who are concerned about their appearances (both naked and clothed). Being sexually attractive makes natural escorts feel alive, and the effort of exercising and dieting is more than worth it since it pays off.

To recap, having a promiscuous personality (being able to have sex with almost anyone) and being physically attractive are the main points in sex work. It may seem very obvious, but the funny thing is that it doesn't seem obvious to the guys who ask me about being an escort. Go figure :)

Hopefully, this is the first post in a series on "How to be a male escort". Of course, this is purely from my perspective, and perhaps my fellow escorts and client may not agree with me on some subjects. However, this is meant more for entertainment than for actual lessons, so please keep that in mind.

Thanks for reading!

Ronielle Out

Public Encounters In Montreal

2011-11-03T01:58:00.001-04:00

There are times when I see a client as I walk down the street in my neighborhood (the gay village). I make eye contact, but I don't usually stop and say hi unless I am alone and my client makes the first move. This is because I prefer to be discreet for my client's sake. Since I have been advertising my face in the local gay magazine for a decade as an escort, many locals know who I am and what I do. Therefore if I am seen with someone, observers may conclude that it is with a past or potential client. Some guys don't care what people think, but I am sensitive to those who do mind.

I bring this up because my client today saw me on the street during the summer but didn't say hi, and was hoping that I would not be upset. I explained that I am discreet, and that it doesn't bother me at all. But I was glad that he mentioned it, because it inspired this blog post :)

But some guys have confronted me on the street, asking why I don't return their messages. I told him that I am reducing my clientele to the ones I believe I have the best rapport with such as long term clients and of course, those who are generous. Complicated guys who are overly demanding and/or condescending are off my list. I never filter out my clients by appearance, mostly by attitude and mutual appreciation. Life is too short, why spend time with someone you don't want to be with?

All in all, keeping my loyal clients is more important to me than getting high volume of clients, such as when I just started my career as an escort. Somehow this feels right to me at this time.

Thank you once again for reading!

Ronielle out

Birthday With 7 Year Regular Client and Escort Evolution

2011-10-18T17:27:00.000-04:00

When establishing a long term, meaningful relationship with a client, it is often requested to do something special for their birthday. In this case, since my client likes to discover new culinary tastes and I happen to know a bit of Filipino cuisine, I cooked for him. We had our escorting session, then went downstairs to my lower level to have a home cooked meal. (I cooked Kari Kari, which is a garlic peanut beef stew with green beans and cabbage, served on white rice)

I have to admit that I do not cook for my guys very often, but I do enjoy it because I enjoy different types of flavors and am always experimenting with food. (People who know me or read my other blogs are aware of my experimentation tendencies!) But what is special is that over the years, my client and I have a lot of history and shared experiences, and what started out as discovering new restaurants for special occasions has evolved to him discovering my Filipino culture's famous dishes. It is only natural to showcase other skills that the average client will never see, making the relationship special in its own unique way.

As the evolution of my escorting career, I find that concentrating on the established, long-term clients is really the most enjoyable aspect, in contrast to the quick sexual episodes that many new clients expect. Of course, it takes time for new clients and I to get to know each other that well, but regular clients from my early escorting days are the ones who helped me the most to become the escort that I am today, and undeniably for the lifestyle I currently enjoy. There is little wonder that I feel loyal to them as well.

As my business shifts from sex work to penis enlargement research and development, I filter my clientele, with preference to long term regular clients, then to those new clients who know exactly what they want and are very clear to communicate it to me.

I take these guys only if I think that I can do a good job, and honestly inform them if I think they have called the wrong escort. My sexual strong points are topping and bottoming (I love giving and receiving anal penetration) and is usually the only time I will ejaculate with a client (shooting inside the condom while fucking). My sexual faults are not being able to cum while getting sucked (except for those who can deep throat my 9x7 without teeth scraping my penis), and cumming on faces (facials are not my favorite, even when watching porn). So this makes my niche market mostly guys who are into anal penetration and likes huge penises, which in reality is a small subset of the male-to-male sexual demographic. Unfortunately, the ratio of guys into penetrative sex to oral/manual/frottage is severely unbalanced: my theory is that millions of tops and bottoms have died because of the AIDS epidemic, while the oral/manual/frottage community have survived relatively untouched in numbers.

In any case, the truth about penetrative sex is that it is risky, and therefore more precautions are necessary. But the end result of focussing on the anal target demographic (in terms of my escorting business) is that it further reduces my workload to allow me to do the sexual acts that I am enjoy doing and to have more time to focus on my new primary business of penis enlargement research. My ideal job is researching and discovering, and escorting has been my way of fulfilling my dream.

But one thing is clear: I fully intend to continue escorting my regular clients, regardless of their acts of choice. To completely stop would be like saying good-bye to all my friends, which is something that I don't have (or want) to do. When all my regular clients are gone, however, it may be an indication that I should publish my memoires that I have accumulated after all these many years. I am writing them anyways, at least it could be entertaining for years to come.

Thanks for reading!

Ronielle Out

Simple is Best

2011-09-23T13:38:00.001-04:00

Sometimes a client wants to be completely thrilled with very high expectations and a complete agenda of what to do during a session. While it is natural to plan ahead, the truth is (in my experience), keeping it simple is often the most enjoyable way to go. Here is an example:

A guy come in urging me to do something wild and creative. After putting on leather outfits, strap-on dildos, double fucking, and switching it all around, he still wasn't pleased and time ran out, which disappointed him further. I lose my tip despite having to run around trying my best and it is still not enough. He leaves with an attitude, and calls me again the following week for an appointment. I refuse, because this is not a client I am looking for. I get a feeling that it will get more and more complicated, and I have to work harder each time. Because this is my profession, I will always take the path of least resistance: take on the simple, more enjoyable clients and refuse the complicated, unsatisfied ones. If they were unhappy, why do they bother calling me again? Its mindboggling.

A simple session, in my eyes, consist of making human contact in a loving, caring way (sex too, of course!). While I have done the spanking, whipping and domination during sessions for years, there is a certain energy that feels twisted and unsettling that lasts, and at this point it is something I am unwilling to do when I compare clients. By this I mean I will take simple clients over complicated clients anyday, mostly because we usually have a much better time just having fun than following a script. There are escorts out there who specialize in that kind of thing, but I prefer romance.

An hour goes by pretty fast, so the more time we have enjoying each other's company means more time in a positive, nurturing headspace. The session is less rushed and more relaxing, and ultimately healthier for us both. It may seem boring to some people, but it less intimidating and more accessable to everyone in general.

Domination is a very common request, and something I am less willing to do these days. Probably because I'm diplomatic and respectful in nature, and enjoy pleasure more than pain. Laziness is also a big factor, and being dominant takes a huge effort on my part. Also the fact that I was unwillingly raped by a past boyfriend in my teenage years gives me a perspective that gives me a pause for reflection. Although many rape victims use BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sado-Masochism) as a healing technique, it doesn't change the fact that it a lot of mental work for both, leaving us spiritually exhausted.

To conclude, and I may have mentioned this in past blog posts, the K.I.S.S. rule: Keep It Simple, Sweety! The more complicated it gets, the less satisfaction you get, and it gets worse over time. Difficult clients are the first to get dropped when business is good; believe me.

Trying to simplify my world as much as possible,

Ronielle

Location : Address not available
Ronielle

Honored in Book by Special Client

2011-09-09T12:20:00.001-04:00

I had a 3 hour session with a client that I have known for many, many years. One of the rewards of escorting with my real name and identity (which is not the norm for the sex industry) is that the level of trust and openess is much higher right from the start. Building on these, a relationship, even between an escort and client, becomes surprisingly fullfilling for both, especially on the long term. Many personal stories are remembered and built upon over the years, and the session goes by very fast, as if there wasn't enough time to do everything.

The sweet and dear man in question has taken photos of me over the years, and has also collect photos and blog posts from ronielle.ca. He then assembled his collection into 2 books, and showed them to me. I was pretty amazed for a couple of reasons: that someone (other than my myself or mother) has put together a brag book about me, and that I remembered the times I posed for the pictures in the book. The amount of hours of work it took him to do this project, and the resources to materialize it must have been a lot, and I am very greatful for it. In one glance I realize that I must have meant a lot to him.

He was worried that I may be not escorting as my penis enlargement business increases, but I assured him that I only intended to stop advertising as an escort. My regular clients and new ones are still welcome, as my work is still very flexible to do both. That is the primary purpose of being self-employed, being responsible for my own business. I concentrate more on my penis enlargement business because I can reach guys worldwide, instead of those currently in Montreal, Canada.

Escorting for a living is fun, and having a parallel business to fall back on gives me a strong sense of security. In both cases, my obsessions of gay sex and penises are fulfilled. No bosses or co-workers? Priceless. I love working in a good team, but I like independance more.

Thanks for reading!

Ronielle

Location : 1234 Avenue Papineau, Montreal, QC H2K 4R2,
Ronielle

Evolution of an Escorting Career

2011-08-18T20:06:00.001-04:00

Once upon a time a young man studying structural engineering at university and working as a radio communications officer in the military decided to pursue another career path: massage therapy.

Practicing massage since before high school graduation, the fact that there was no boss but myself was highly appealing, and I choose the work conditions. Massaging took a break while working/living on a bird farm, learning incubation, raising baby parrots, and teaching them to talk for their new owners. A year and a half of birds lead me back to massage therapy again.

Finding massage clients was not very difficult in Montreal, but finding the best advertisers took time. Not long after I started massaging, sexual propositions started happening, and thus an escort was born.

Finding out that escorting was not just about ejaculation, the nuances of escorting became slowly apparent. Becoming more involved in learning more about the wonders of individuality, clients became more like real people and less like wallets filled with cash (which is a trap many short term escorts fall for). Escorting became very enjoyable when the right outlook and philosophy is developed, and is the main reason I remain in this industry after more than a decade.

Aging is a concern for many people who rely on their appearance. Penis size is also a concern for those who rely on it for work. A long standing obsession for looking for the 'big one' became an obsession for finding the secrets of making 'a big one'. My scientific background was suddenly brought back to life, and my thirst for research made me realize that knowledge of the unknown is my trip. And this research and experimentation has evolved my career to the present: a penis enlargement researcher and consultant.

As the media is reporting that the economy is slowing down, its effects on escorting is pretty discouraging: less clients and sessions. Anticipating this decline, my consultation business has grown in the past year and is now in year 2. The demographic for consultations is much broader since men from all around the world are my targets, not just the men in Montreal. More people are interested in penis enlargement than with having a session with an escort. Last but not least, penis enlargement is an amazing science with even more potential for discovery than escorting. It is the only passion that rivals my passion for escorting, perhaps because I love thinking that I can personally help men from all over on increasing their manhood. Being envied for having a large penis is one thing; helping others along the same path is a lifelong dream.

Escorting will be a large part of my life, but it doesn't/hasn't confined my personality. Many clients are concerned about my future: but that is before they truly understand who I really am. There is more to me than bleach blond hair (^_^)

Escorts and masseurs have confided to me that business is slowing down. I see this as an opportunity to be creative. Penis tailor, anyone?

Keep in touch, and thanks for reading!

Ronielle out

Location : 1475 Rue Saint Hubert, Montreal, QC H2L 3Y9,
Ronielle

Increased Harassment Rate By Text Messaging

2011-08-12T16:07:00.001-04:00

With a job like mine, weirdos feel free to contact me without any true intensions of hiring me. Text messaging is becoming the most popular way of initiating contact, being a mix of phone and email communications. Growing numbers of text messaging users unfortunately mean that being harrased by text is growing, too.

A guy texts me about setting up an encounter, but when the conversation begins to feel like sexting (which is the text equivalent to phone sex), I politely ask for a time and date they would like a session, and inform him of my hourly rate. When he claims to not having any money, I write back with, "my services are for serious clients only", and soon after I am flooded with a string of derogatory comments like whore, slut, and other non-creative insults (visualize my eyes rolling back at the display of stupidity). Having this happen once in a while is expected: having it happen almost everyday from different phone numbers is border-line conspiracy! OMG, WTF? Lol

The way I deal with it is to use it as a conversation piece, a subject for psychological analysis, and a topic for a blog post. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade, right?

When I am confronted with such maliciousness, I react with compassion and appreciation. I feel compassion because I pity the fool who displays how lonely, bored and (probably) poor he is to indulge in such juvenile cheap thrills, and appreciation to have a large pool of clients who are high quality people. To react negatively to such onslaught is to admit weakness in my integrity: this person's negativity is his own, not mine.

The contrast becomes clearer in the presence of open hostility: the smell of assholes and roses becomes easier to identify. I don't believe that I invite negative people to contact me, but perhaps life sends them my way to strengthen my sense of humor and to thicken my skin. Being an escort and now a penis enlargement consultant generates flash judgments and assumptions by strangers, but I rather have people think about me than to be completely ignored.

Let me just send this one message right now into the world: karma will get you back one way or another. So make sure that before you fight fire with fire, you step back to avoid the blow before you waste your precious energy on a nobody. It's easier than you think.

Literally loving the world,

Ronielle

Location : 1475 Rue Saint Hubert, Montreal, QC H2L 3Y9,
Ronielle

Monstercock Woes: Escort Brings Relief

2011-08-05T19:40:00.001-04:00

On extremely rare occasions, a client has a difficult time finding suitable sexual partners because his penis is so massive. Being a repeat client, he confides to me that I was the only one who he has been able to take him without complaints or show signs of pain, which is a turn off for him.

Getting fucked by something huge requires quite a bit of skill, from relaxing the ass, pelvic positioning, Lamaze breathing, and finally, complete surrendering to the feeling of getting ass-raped to completion. Facial expressions can tell a lot to a top, and enjoying deep, deep fucking requires a capacity to transmute pain into ecstasy. While I remember the last time he dug deep inside me, I told him that he was teaching me a lesson that I will never forget.

Being on the receiving end of a big dick reminded me of when I fucked guys who could take mine: there was a certain point when all my resistance melted away and I gave my all. Being totally dominated gave me a release; it was as if I was an electronic device and my reset button has being pressed. He must have felt the shift too: it was the moment the machine started and he whomped my ass to the finish line.

But I completely understand the feeling of fucking someone the way you want. Instead of worrying if you are hurting the other, you focus on the pleasure of unrestricted penetration (with condoms, of course). Its a pity that a guy who has a large dick is envied, yet at the same time is restricted from performing to his full potential by most of his sexual partners. But finding sexual compatibility is quite difficult for most people, each having their own considerations.

To finish, bottoming is an art: pain to pleasure, complete surrender of body and mind, and resonating the pleasure from your top. It is nice to feel my limits pushed once in a while!

Ronielle out!

Location : 1592 Sainte-Catherine St E, Montreal, QC H2L 2S3,
Ronielle

Sexual Compatibility in Existing Relationships

2011-07-29T19:39:00.001-04:00

This is not the first time that I write about sexual compatibility, but its importance in existing relationships seem to increase over time. There are many types of sexual compatibilities: sexual appetite and sexual acts being the ones I will address in this post.

If you and your partner enjoy having frequent sex (these type of guys will usually masturbate nightly if not actually having sex), then you are compatible in terms of sexual frequency. When one partner declines sex as a habit, then problems manifest physically in several ways: irritability and weight gain. Sex is well known to be an effective stress reliever, as well as good exercise. In many married couples, the sex-controlling spouse often discourages the other from masturbating, or the other way around; encourages the other to masterbate to relieve tension. Either way, when trapped in a relationship, the perks of having a partner (someone to have sex with for "free") are non-existant. A multitude of excuses to not have sex are often heard, but never truly believed. What is the most hurtful is finding out the person you truly love is no longer sexually interested in you. Food replaces physical love and motivation to keep in shape is diminished. Bodyfat accumulation begins and steadily reinforces your loved one to not love you. How many people in relationships are truly miserable? Don't answer out loud, as your trained response is probably not the truth.

Sexual role compatibility for couples is also a touchy issue. Since bottoms and tops are a good fit in theory, some tops ejaculate too fast, to the disappointment of the bottom, or vice versa: the top doesn't come fast enough. Either way, sex requires communication and education in long term relationships. Some want oral, some want anal, some just want frottage; it would be nice to have someone who can handle the sexual aspect of a relationship to reduce sexual pressure in an imcompatible pairing.

Imagine a world where escorting is a viable way of addressing these issues. Unfortunately, sex is used as a bargaining chip ultimately used to control the actions of another, with greater control when the couple are monogamous.

But such power and control are diffused when people have choices. A man does not need permission to have an orgasm. No one should be trapped in a relationship. Fear is the main obstacle for making choices, but once fear is overcome, the weight that is lifted is the greatest feeling in the world.

My heart goes out to all who are trapped and miserable. You give your master the control, and only you can take it back. Don't be scared to live your life, but be afraid of spending the rest of it as he'll on earth.

As an escort, many confide to me about their personal lives, and I am happy to be the one they reach out to to have fun. But my guys leave, and I am left wondering if they will be ok. I certainly hope so.

Ok, enough seriousness. Relationships can be great, don't get me wrong. But for many, the sex could be better.

Take care,

Ronielle out

Location : Address not available
Ronielle

Safe Sex Negotiations Continue

2011-07-19T17:19:00.001-04:00

A client calls and is asking for an erotic massage with someone who is 'openminded'. After talking for a while, 'openminded' for him means unprotected oral sex with in-mouth ejaculation. I explained my policy with condoms and oral sex, which he disliked. He wanted me to make an exception for him because it was his birthday, and that he says that he is clean. Somewhere in the conversation he states that he feels he could trust me because of my strict policy, so I should feel free to make an exception.

When a client wants unprotected sex, there really is a limited number of strategies from a negociation point of view, but none of them hold water.

How can you trust someone who makes exceptions with total strangers?

I guess it is possible if the escort in question is desperate for money to risk his health. The client could also be testing the escort, to see if his resolve for safe sex is solid. No matter how you put it, there is only one good answer: Safe, or no deal.

Birthday or special occasion? And you want to celebrate it by potentially catching a sexually transmitted disease with a high risk partner? (someone with multiple sexual partners are always high risk)

"Don't worry, I'm clean and safe with everyone else". So why do they want to have unprotected sex with me? They respect me less than everyone else? And what makes me believe that they are clean? I know many guys who lie about their health status, even to doctors. At some point these guys start believing their own lies, without any regard to the lives they will affect.

"I wouldn't let anything happen to you". In that case, let's be safe to make sure nothing bad happens.

"The feeling isn't as good. I want to feel closer to you". Once you stop concentrating on the condom, you can have a great sensation. It is an ability anyone can have, you just need the necessary mental skills to concentrate on pleasure, not the lack of pleasure.

"I only have unprotected sex with my wife. So if we are both clean, then it is safe." Wrong. If you can cheat on your significant other, then you are capable on cheating on your escort. Use protection if you really want to protect your loved ones from catching something.

I'm sorry if this is a downer for Bareback enthusiasts. I understand the excitement and fantasy involved, but when the orgasm fades, reality sinks in. If I think that it is a bad idea to have unsafe sex with strangers, then I simply will not do it. I recommend that the client seek someone else who can do it for him.

The client in question made the appointment anyways, and texted me that he was 15 minutes early and if that was ok. I wrote back that I will be ready for the exact time of our appointment as I still had to shower and shave. 5 minutes before the appointment he cancelled, texting he was tired of waiting.

Wow, all that negociating and declaration of trust etc. And he couldn't even arrive at the scheduled time. Sometimes I can't win, but at least I didn't waste my time. It turned out to be a good blog post in the end.

Take care, and remember: fantasy has consequences in reality.

Keep in touch!

Ronielle out

Location : 1475 Rue Saint Hubert, Montreal, QC H2L 3Y9,
Ronielle

Sample Picture of Spring 2011 Photoshoot

2011-07-17T23:15:00.000-04:00

Bottom's Heaven

2011-07-05T18:08:00.001-04:00

There are times when a bottom is looking for a good top to enjoy his welcoming hole, and there are times I meet a bottom who is not afraid of taking my dick all the way. And sometimes I meet a client who needs more than my penis can give him, in which case I reach for my trusty strap-on dildo set and introduce him to my toys. Everyone is different, and therefore everyone enjoys different things. But this post will focus on bottoms who, above anything else, love getting pleasure with me inside.

Usually bottoms tell me right away that they are looking for a top to fuck them long and hard. I appreciate directness when a new client calls because I don't have to read minds as much, which is makes things much easier. When a client is vague, as in saying "I'm looking for a good time" when asked what kind of meeting are they looking for, it tells me either the person is too shy to be direct when communicating (which is quite common in many social settings, out of politeness), or that they don't really know what they want yet until they see me. But the words along the lines of "make love to my ass" and "don't stop fucking until you're done" make me smile. Based on my experience, bottoms count for less than 15% of my clientele over the years, which means, as much as I love fucking, I don't get to do it often as I would like. When my mission profile is to be a fucking machine, I really look forward to getting my workout: this is what I was meant to do. After all, we all want what we don't get enough of, right?

Humor aside, I enjoy penetration when I can, and I also appreciate the pain and pleasure that must be endured to be able to take me all the way, the way I want to. An evolution of an anal penetration-only session is tenderness and caring after sex. Real example: my visitor may want a "wham-bang, thank you ma'am" type of session at the beginning of our relationship, but later asks for a true boyfriend experience for future sessions. So in my mind, I become the sex-starved boyfriend who love-rapes his partner on sight, and then kiss, cuddle and caress with light pillow talk before our shower time. But many guys feel uncomfortable after orgasm and ejaculation, and prefer to leave as soon as it is polite to do so. When a client tells me how he likes to end a session, it makes things much easier for me too.

Escorts like me have a lot of guesswork to do to understand what a client is looking for. Communication goes a long way to keep the pleasure going in the right direction, but instinct from my experience certainly helps fill the gaps with less experienced shy types of guys. But that is a different type of fun, best reserved for a later post.

Keep in touch!

Ronielle

Location : 1425 Boulevard René-Lévesque Ouest, Montreal, QC H3G 1T7,
Ronielle

Loving An Escort

2011-05-16T18:18:00.001-04:00

As an escort, the only way for career longevity is to establish long lasting emotional connections with as many clients as possible. While it is true that love is a very confusing emotion, creating sadness from love is often a balancing factor in life. The potential happiness from falling in love is great; the key is to allow the happiness to infiltrate all other aspects and people in your life. The fastest way to lose the happy feelings is to wonder if it will last forever, or contemplating if it is real, or doubting yourself if you are good enough to be loved by this type of person.

Unfortunately, we cannot always rationalize with our hearts. When I see love im my clients' eyes, I feel so good because being loved is amazing. When that look turns to sadness, it breaks my heart as I usually know why the reason: reality checks in. The reality of the situation is that the same convenience of setting up a date with no emotional strings attached is also the problem, but who knows about that going in?

But with all candor, progressing a relationship has many risks too. Many guys know that, and are happy without the emotional ties a real life (as in non-escort) partner. Of course, the forbidden fruit has a lot of appeal, and the grass is greener on the other side. But believe it or not, some guys wish that they were not in a relationship at all, but find themselves too connected to their current partner to let go. So even though these guys are not lonely, they very much wish that they were. In this case, single guys have it all, and the freedom that they take for granted.

As perspectives change, appreciation of what we have already is the final factor in perceived happiness. The only real sadness is that sad people really do have a lot to be happy for, compared to some other people around the world.

Be happy, everybody!

Ronielle out

Location : 825 Boulevard René-Lévesque Est, Montreal, QC H2L,
Ronielle

Loving An Escort

2011-05-16T18:14:00.001-04:00

Taking Care of Your Own Needs In a Relationship

2011-05-04T17:49:00.001-04:00

Sometimes we fall in love with someone who is not compatible sexually; this is actually pretty common. Compatibility issues such as partner refusing to explore sexually, like resisting anal sex or performing orally, is a mild issue in the beginning, yet what starts out to be a crack in the pavement slowly becomes a pot hole over time. The investment in the relationship is at a point where breaking up because of sex sounds petty; but sex is no longer fun and is confined to the pleasure of the limit maker. So what do you do?

Let's use an artistic analogy. When I was studying sculpting, the basic shape is very important at the beginning. Small flaws are overlooked at this stage, but as the sculpture develops, and a perfectionist mindset sets in, all little problems are amplified. The sculpture is nearing completion, yet I am still not satisfied because of a problem that only I am focussing on. But there comes a point where I decide that the sculpture is finished, flaws and all, because there is no point in spending more energy on the problem (basically I learn to accept and live with it).

In a relationship, there are many flaws we have to accept in our partners. But we realize that they also have to accept our flaws as well. If we are in a monogamous relationship, sexual incompatibilities may be an issue depending on the actual definition of 'monogamous'.

If monogamous means not loving other people romantically, this usually includes not having sex with other people. This type of relationship is the most confining but has the potential to be the most rewarding of all relationship types. This type of relationship scares a lot of guys, including me. Some guys are capable of loving a lot of people because they are full of love. Jealousy and insecurities twist this concept into loving someone else to hurt someone we already love; this is identified as passive aggressive control. People who love a lot do so because it is part of their nature and it makes them happy, not because it will intentionally hurt someone else.

If monogamous means not falling in love with another, but meaningless sex (whatever that means) is permitted as long as it is discreet and hidden, then the obvious choice is to see an escort, who has no long term agenda in the encounter, and can be available very discreetly without having to cruise for a mate in a public area. The escort is responsible to please the client needs, within reason. The most common problem new clients have with escorts are forcing the escort to have a good time, probably because they have spent such a long time trying to please their partners with hopes that they will someday give in to their demands sexually. With an escort, you should focus on your own selfish needs and enjoy it, because the escort will appreciate you more for it. Quite frankly you should focus on the service, not the worker. It may seem self-centered, but consider getting a massage: remove the focus from the masseur and more into the massage. An important skill is being used here: taking care of oneself. Learn to focus on your own pleasure, and your sessions with an escort becomes more fulfilling because he does what he does best: pleasing the client directly. If your pleasure comes only from pleasing others, then you may be lacking the skills to taking care of your own needs directly. You may need to accept the fact that no one can ever love you more than you are capable to love yourself. Say no to selflessness for a while and indulge yourself.

You deserve it!

Thanks for reading!

Ronielle out

Location : 1620 Rue Saint Hubert, Montreal, QC H2L 3Z3,
Ronielle

Clients With Prostate Cancer

2011-04-15T14:10:00.001-04:00

A man's disease, prostate cancer is very scary despite the fact that it is usually non-lethal. But the risks of complications such as incontinence, impotence, and the requirement for a colostomy bag is enough to cause serious concern. Listening to my clients' concerns on this matter, before and after their surgery, is something of a relatively common occurrence in a decade of escorting. Talking about it helps relieve mental stress a few degrees, especially in the arms of a male lover. Who knows, I may even get diagnosed with prostate cancer one of these days, and it may very well be me talking to my escort in the far future about it. Moral support and an attentive ear goes a long way, and sometime I wish I could do something about it, but I can't.

So to those brave men who will be soon going under the knife, please know that I am thinking of you and wishing for a successful surgery and a fast recovery.

Sincerly,

Ronielle

Location : 1189-1309 Rue Saint-Christophe, Montreal, QC H2L 2E3,
Ronielle

Spring Fever Anticipation

2011-04-05T17:47:00.001-04:00

Here we are again, on the verge of good weather as winter blows over in its last attempt to freeze our nuts off. With sunny days and cold nights, sexual energy is building up everywhere; so what to do when you are hot and bothered?

First of all, don't hold back your sexual tension until it drives you nuts. I know the type: guys calling me to make an appointment for NOW or NEVER! The sexual tension reaches across the phone, and unfortunately my schedule is made the day before and I rarely have same-day openings. The smart ones realize that regular sex prevents this blue-balled devil from rearing its head, and schedules an appointment ahead of time in anticipation.

According to one of my favorite sex books, 'Zen Sex' describes the ritual of setting a future date of sexual pleasure, and savoring the feeling of anticipation as being 'alive'. Spontaneous sex is awesome too, but can be inconvenient at times, and rejection can create a hurt when logic fails to communicate with the penis. How to heal this pain? Schedule sex, and anticipate it. Enjoy the wait instead of showing penis-induced frustration to your partner (who will most likely consider it a turn-off and immature).

Make a date, prepare yourself for the fun to begin, and enjoy the full effect of lovemaking; planning, preparing, anticipating, savoring and exhaustion. Skipping to orgasm is fine for masturbating before falling asleep, not usually so when with a partner. If you need to look at a clock to pace yourself, do it. The longer the pace, the better the final orgasm (except for those with delayed-orgasm problems, more on that in another post). I try to pace my lovers as much as I can; some like it and some find it deliciously evil and sadistic. Perhaps the feeling of being controlled and surrendering spices up the pleasure factor, who knows for sure for every given moment. One thing IS sure... the ride is much more interesting than a bee-line to the finish line!

Take your time and have fun!

Ronielle over and out

Closet Case Husbands: How To Keep Fooling Your Wife

2011-03-30T18:05:00.002-04:00

My current reading assignment is called "The Gay Husband Checklist for Wives Who Wonder". I figure that since many of my visitors are also husbands, it may be useful to compile information on how wives become suspicious of their husband's secret lives. The author of this book is a councellor for women whose world has been turned upside-down upon discovering their husband's true nature. I have taken her checklists for how to spot a gay man posing as straight, and I came up with tips on how not to be discovered.

I sympathize with gay husbands, since it is not easy to lead a deep undercover life. If a spy was told that they had to maintain the ruse of being totally devoted to their wives for the rest of his life for a mission, I would expect that their would be a very strong motivation for success, like money or fear of death. But for whatever reason, staying on the down-low is the goal, and I hope my following tips help you to maintain the status quo.

1. Have regular penetrative sex with your wife.

A spiral decline of sex after marriage is the top of the list. You should plan to have sex at least once a week, or at least initiate as often as possible. Wives expect their straight husbands to be more sexual than themselves, so if she refuses, keep insisting. Always be a little more sexually agressive than she is. Uninterested husbands smell like homo.

2. Never talk about past your homosexual experiences, even if you say it wasn't for you.

This is also a big no-no, and can certainly cast suspicion somewhere down the road. Since many men have lousy first encounters with other men (due to nervousness, inexperience, etc.), it doesn't mean that you might not like it the next time (in her eyes).

3. Do not be overly negative towards gays

Overcompensation by hating gays is easy, because a gay husband does not want to be gay, and their self-hatred can raise eyebrows when overdone. Keep cool, and instead be neutral about the whole subject. Don't slip up by being emotional.

4. Do not shy away from her vagina.

Most gays are turned off by vagina, and straight guys are turned on at the mere idea. So practice your 'I'm getting excited' face and purge all disgusted reactions, as women are extremely sensitive and vulnerable to you. Remember, you are straight, so act the part.

5. Take your time to make love to her, properly.

'Going through the motions' is easily detected, so make sure you repeat in your mind a mantra to stay focused, such as "I love you so much, you make me feel so good; I want to be with you the rest of my life"

Meaningless 'obligation' sex breeds even more suspicion, so make sure you can pull this off accordingly. The lack of passion indicates something is wrong, and she won't rest until she finds out why.

As you can see, when life is about keeping up with appearances, notice how being yourself and being happy are never mentioned. They are the ultimate sacrifices for mission success. The thought of being exposed is one of the most horrible thing when you are hiding. Perhaps a new appreciation for gays who are out of the closet is necessary: openly gay people have courage, bravery and guts to be who they are. They don't call it gay pride for nothing! Gay husbands can be brave and strong too, it is birthright of being homosexual.

So to all my brothers and sisters in hiding, I wish you luck in your mission. If you are going to do it, at least do it right. Also, clean out your internet history, change passwords often, and delete text messages right after you read them. She will search your phone and computer for definite clues; don't let her find a thing.

Apologies in advance, this is not meant to be inflammatory. My only goal is to help in any way I can.

Keep in touch my friends!

Ronielle over and out

Times Of Stress

2011-03-25T17:45:00.001-04:00

My recent visitor told me that his thoughts of me helped him during an exasperated breakdown at work; an unexpected compliment! There are many times during the day where I think of my clients, which I believe is normal since my mission is to seek out new relationships that ultimately lead to mutual benefit. I try my best to fulfill the role of lover, and part of that role is to spend some time in thought about that person.

Remembering past lovers can be very satisfying for both partners, especially during sex with someone else. Why feel guilty about thinking of other people while making love? To me, I channel all the passion from my past to build on the current moment. No one has to know but me.

Caution: if a lover asks you directly who were you thinking about during sex, consider your options: telling the truth can be devastating during this (obvious) time of vulnerability (of the person who asks). A person who is very secure with themselves would not ask this question. The most likely good answer would be to look them directly in their eyes and say, "You, and only you." (And derivitives of that, etc.) Never answer anything else except something like, "you tell me first" to gauge how you should respond. Even so, the bast answer is still the same (in my opinion).

Remember, even if honesty is the best policy, it can destroy a relationship easier than anything else. So keep 'honest' opinions and comments to yourself unless you are sure that it will make your partner feel good. That is the point of being together; to make each other feel good.

Enjoy the spring!

Ronielle

Sex Injectables

2011-03-16T15:24:00.002-04:00

With a sex industry growing everyday, research in pharmaceuticals are advancing in to improve the sexual condition. Most of these improvement are erection-centric, but a few also improve desire and libido and act mainly on the central nervous system. I will mention only those I use for my own sex work, and those I can give an honest review.

My main erection penis injection is Caverject, also known as alprostadil and prostaglandin E1. Many guys in the sex business (and older folks as well) rely on this penis injection to perform as it guarantees hard erections at proper doses. Guys need to be hard for work, and that stress can work against them when 3+ cameras are rolling, or with a client who is not their sexual match. When your dick earns your livelyhood, it has to be a reliable worker. Alprostadil is usually reserved for the erectile dysfunction crowd, and prescribed mainly to guys over 45, however it is available without a prescription from many online pharmacies, and some sympathetic doctors will prescribe it to younger men. The dangers are overdosing and having a prolonged erection over 6 hours that can seriously permanently damage erectile function, so proper working knowledge is necessary to become comfortable using this drug on a regular basis. There is also a matter of pain it produces, but most users are not seriously bothered enough with it to discontinue its use.

Alprostadil is also the central drug for the underground "Chemical Penis Enlargement" protocol, as it also has a high potential to loosen/soften the tough penile tissues (such as collagen) so exercises to remodel the penis are more effective. This protocol asks for about 15 hours total per week of erection time, in 3 hours or so increments per day. I can personally vouch for this experiment as it is part of my daily routine for the past 33 months, and that I gained both 2" in length and in girth: but injections are only the central part, the others being mechanical stretching and hormonal cycling. (more on chempe.com)

Another interesting injectable is called Melanotan II, which is used primarily to darken the skin tone from the inside-out, as it tricks the body to tan by producng more skin pigments. The positive side-effects are lowered appetite, increased libido, and for men, increased spontaneous erections. Called the "Barbie drug" as it causes tanning, weightloss and libido; this injection is done in a small skin fold on the belly and its most noticeable negative effect is nausea for a few hours of injection. I also use this drug on a regular basis for over 5 years as it keeps me with a whole body tan all year round and keeps appetite in check, plus high libido and spontaneous erections for escorting.

So, for those looking for an edge to make their sex work easier, consider these options as "tried and true" from your friendly neighboorhood escort, yours truly. These are secrets of the pros, and more molecules are being discovered every year to enhance the sexual nature of man. They are truly a crowd pleaser!

Keep in touch!

Ronielle

Chemical Penis Enlargement

2011-03-04T14:38:00.001-05:00

Many of my readers are not aware of that I also write about my own experiments with chemical penis enlargement, which can be found at chempe.com. Although having a large penis is not necessary to escorting, it certainly helps when an escort continuously tries to improve his product over the long term. Upgrading my body over time keeps me on top of my game, and adds longevity to an already extended career of escorting. It also helps to have a personal obsession with big penises, and to surround oneself with size-queens!

Directly related to chem pe is the use of erection aides, primarily injections in the side of the penis right before show time. While most guys know and use pills such as viagra and cialis (and less often levitra), these drugs work only in conjunction with mental sexual arousal, which can be difficult in times of stress, nervousness and anxiety (which happens to every man). Also, such oral medications fail to work at all in a percentage of the population, and can increase the level of concern when one fails to perform. Injections, on the other hand, work regardless of mental state (except extreme cases, of course), and if properly used, can be used for sex AND penis enlargement.

Since I have been writing my other blog, I have started doing more distance consultations by phone and webcam with guys (both gay and straight varieties) all around the world. The interest that has been generated fuels multiple fires: escorting, personal enlargement, and research to be shared with my consultation clients. My obsession with sex was channelled into escorting; my obsession with penis enlargement became essential to escorting and branched out to reach a much broader audience across the globe. My divocup penis enlarging device was born out of necessity to complete my enlargement goals, and now quickly becoming a regular part of the lives of so many men who have purchased them since they became publicly available from divocup.com in Nov 2010.

This chain of events would not have been possible without the support of my clients, who in turn benefit from enjoying the fruits of my labors. It seems in a world where one person doing his own thing can spark interest to many others; just by being different and taking the risk of being alienated by friends and family for having a public life (quite controversial), and being accepted by people he doesn't even know personally. In my case, alienation didn't occur, but the thought of it has delayed my personal projects for many years.

In my eyes, penis enlargement is like working out at the gym: lots of guys prefer to see the results on someone else than doing the hard work themselves. If a guy does bodybuilding, is there a body part they should neglect? No. So the logic stands that all bodybuilders should include penis enlargement. What a beautiful site that would be at bodybuilding competitions instead of what we usually see now!

Coming back to escorting and penis enlargement, the two fit so well together like a glove. Efficiency and progression are large motivational factors in life for me, and I am happy to be able to transform 2 sex-related obsessions to real constructive uses. It is not everyday we can take fantasy into reality, with benefits along the way. I wonder how long I can keep this up! Probably until I reach my forties and fifties my image will go more towards a "built daddy" look, and that will satisfy my fantasies even more. But that detail deserves a seperate post.

Keep in touch guys!

Ronielle, up up and away!

Valentines Month: Seek Out What Makes You Secretly Happy

2011-02-13T14:06:00.000-05:00

Valentine's day is the day before my birthday, so naturally it has much more meaning to me than to most people. It seems that this special day brings out the extreme in people I talk to; they either love valentines or they hate it. Of course, being in love with someone makes the day that much more exciting, but being alone has it's own opportunities as well (opportunities that those in serious relationships are missing out on). Let's explore these possibilities, shall we?

As so many writers focus on what to do with your lover on valentines, this article will focus on creating opportunities of excitement with professional sex workers, regardless of your current romantic status. By broadening our goals widely, the entire month of February can be the 'Valentine's Month'. This approach is useful because it diffuses the need to make the official date of the 14th as the deadline for romantic endeavours. Many restaurants are completely booked on this day, as well as services provided by escorts and masseurs such as myself. By allowing yourself to be free to have fun anytime during the month can really simplify your life in terms of scheduling.

I consider valentines to be the month to create new sexual experiences. If you are not currently involved (or even more excitingly, you decide to cheat on your loved one, for whatever reason), then the easiest way is to contact your local escort for some fun. Seriously, it is as easy as making a massage appointment. But an erotic massage is a good option as well, for those who are not to comfortable for paying for sex but still want to do something a little crazy/wild and save a few bucks at the same time (masseurs generally charge less than escorts do, but action is limited to the masseur's restrictions, so find out in advance when you are making the appointment).

Keeping to the theme of love, sex and romance for valentines, consider exploring a new sexual experience with a new lover. Chances of making a memorable time are higher if you actively seeking sex. A very sad reality is that people have a concept that if they take someone out for a date, pay for dinner, movie, dancing, flowers, candy and other gifts, that they will also have great sex after. We all know that it is not guaranteed, and even if you do have sex with your date, you pretty much paid for it (and if you don't have sex, you pretty much end up feeling used for your generosity). At least with an escort you are guaranteed sex within an hour, without the trouble of looking for the perfect gift or planning a perfect night out. Both ways, you pay for it (even if you are married, you may actually pay more for sex with your spouse than you realize). In an ideal world we have the perfect partner who wants to please us and we please them just as much: holding on to those ideals can cause much grief when it doesn't happen to us. As I always say, "Perfection is the practice of being unhappy." We are never truly happy when we look for perfection, because we are always looking for the thing that keeps it from being perfect. (And we always find it.) Looking for the silver lining of every cloud is a better attitude to adopt when searching for happiness, where the cloud just makes the silver brighter by contrast.

Please keep in mind that I believe in love and monogamy, but my experience shows that (secretly) couples are not as sexually compatible (or happy in general) as they want people to believe. Is it right to suffer in a relationship, when the cure is simply a safe (and secret) sexual encounter with a stranger? When I see a married man as a client, he ALWAYS goes back home to his wife/lover/family. A little detour adds spice to his life, and excitement.The significant other usually is furious if discovered, but that fury is misplaced. It is from a deep down realization that their man is not satisfied, and may never be fully satisfied. A good rationalization is that one person cannot expect to be the world to another person. It is equally selfish to expect one person to fulfill another one's needs completely. Would you like to be completely dependent on someone, or have someone completely dependent on you? That thought doesn't inpire sex to me (actually, it is a boner-shrinker). Don't pull the honesty card out, because most people can't handle the truth.

But getting into gritty details, suppose you have decided to have a sexual encounter with an escort; what do you do? Getting physical is usually the whole point of the meeting. Small talk is necessary to some, but moving ahead to the main course is the smart way of using your limited time together. Now, some guys get anxiety here for different reasons such as being too nervous to get hard, or afraid of cumming too fast, or general guilt. These feelings are normal, and make part of the experience real. With that in mind, enjoy the entire experience and communicate to your escort as directly as possible if required.

If you decide to see a masseur who does "happy endings", all you have to do is be clean, wear clean clothes, trim your nails, and lightly smell good (this is goes for any date in general). Relax, and enjoy the ride. Perfect for the one who is not in the mood to reciprocate, and allows you to focus on YOUR needs. But this can be limiting if you don't cum easily with hand jobs, or you prefer to take part in the action, whether anal or oral sex (which is the usual restrictions with masseurs). But it is great for those new to sexual services.

Love is a more difficult concept to address compared to sex. But there are a few escorts out there who are willing to provide love as well, within the parameters established by those involved. Imagine a playland with a fence around it, and a playland that is open. You can have fun in both, but the one with the fence has an admission cost, and you can have fun within those bounderies. While love with an escort is very tricky, as long as both are getting what they need from the relationship, it will work. But I consider escorts as multi-purpose: we can provide love to those who want it, and sex on demand. A quiet evening hugging and kissing to recharge the morale, or great conversation and a bottle of wine to wind down a stressful week: all depends on what the client wants at that time. The boundary is this: both need to benefit. Sounds like a real relationship, huh? It is, and it is a good training for relationships in general. I say this because whether you are in a "real" relationship or not, you can still do relationship things and have a great time. Just don't get caught up with the money thing and everything will be alright.

Please let me end with this point: seek out what will make you happy. No one will bring it to you, no one can make you as happy as you can make yourself (believe me, it is true. It is also your responsibility to your wellbeing.) Images of Cupid flying around shooting love arrows is a symbol, a symbol of action. He sometimes hits, and sometimes misses. But at least he is trying, and so should you, no matter what situation you currently are in. So make an effort, and celebrate valentines this year. That's an order!

Multiple Orgasms for Dummies

2011-02-01T15:27:00.001-05:00

With the first month out of the way, and getting our routine back to 'normal' after the holidays, it is time to focus on this year's goals. As a personal goal, why not explore a male multiple orgasm? There is a simple technique to doing this, and every time you masturbate is a practice session for you. The key to unlocking a multi-big O is timing and breath control (and practice, obviously!)

A multiple orgasm is like throwing a stone in the water; only very carefully as if you want the stone to skip along the calm surface. Each time the stone hits the water it creates ripples. These ripples can be seen as the 'orgasms', the larger ripples are formed first, and as the stone skips over the water, little 'orgasms' are formed.

Please do not confuse 'orgasm' with 'ejaculation'. They are different events that usually take place simultaneously for men, only that multiple ejaculation may not take place (ejaculation is only for shooting liquid, and the sensation of fluid ejecting). Orgasms make the eyes roll back and toes curl, and the shivering 'shakes' that feel so good. Orgasms also cause a release of prolactin in the brain, which is the culprit for making us tired and useless after a good O.

Back to technique:

Timing: hold your breath right before you have your orgasm, which means no air in or out. Success is acheived when oxygen flow is completely stopped (imagine being underwater). Do not use any devices such as a neck tie or rope around the neck, unless you want your dead body to be found in a very comprimising situation.

Still holding your breath and taking the time to savour the orgasm without air, hold on to your lungs as long as you can, until your vision starts to darken around the edges or you see stars (if you are in the dark). Basically hold your breath for what seems to be a very long time but don't pass out.

Start breathing with a big breath in when you can't hold on anymore, and continue holding on to the orgasmic feeling. Your first breath should feel great, and is the first mini-orgasm after the main one. If you are masturbating, don't stop even if their is a mess to clean up. If you are with a partner, don't stop whatever made you go over the edge. Allow your body to contract itself silly until all the mini orgasms have squeezed themselves out. Unroll your eyes and uncurl your toes: now the multiple oragsms are over.

Don't just read this post, go try it yourself. If you get it right, you may never have plain single O's again.

Sidebar: remember prolactin is secreted after orgasm? Some people do not produce a lot of this in the brain at orgasm, and are able to restart their sex drive after a short pause. A drug is also available to inhibit prolactin secretion called cabergolin; its primary use is for parkinsons disease treatment (as parkingsons patients secrete too much prolactin). An interesting side effect of cabergolin is a shorter rest phase between orgasms, noticed by parkinsons patients.

Now remember kids, hold your breath before cumming, hold it until you almost bust a lung, breathe again and enjoy what the French call "the little death".

Keep in touch and explore!

Ronielle

Dressing Up in Leather

2011-01-21T17:38:00.001-05:00

My recent visitor loves leather. Since he called to say he would be a little late, I got dressed up in chaps (which was a very generous gift from a massage client long time ago when I still did outcalls and massage only), and a leather jacket. He was happy when I opened the door to greet him, and thanked me for the effort.

As we progressed though the session, I took off my jacket and put him in it. At that moment a shift in dynamic occured: confidence, sexyness, excitement. Roleplaying as bikers sharing a secret, feeling bad boy and naughty. We delayed orgasm until it just had to come out... NOW!

Delaying somebody their orgasm generates feelings that can ultimately increase final pleasure. Begging and pleading for release transfers control to your partner, and enjoyment heightens when control is returned to you at the point of orgasm.

Auto-asphyxiation can be gently integrated into the art of capturing the orgasmic moment and stretching the length of time we feel the buzz. But I will save that part for a later post.

Keep in touch!

Ronielle

Happy New Year 2011!

2011-01-04T16:22:00.000-05:00

A new year has arrived, this time full of puppies. That's right, my dog had 6 puppies on Dec 13, which started right before a client arrived for a session. I had to reschedule that appointment though, but my guy was here to witness the second puppy being born. What a magical moment.

This holiday season was rather busy, as usual, but with the litter of puppies it was even more so as the clean up duties steadily increased. And this is just the beginning!

In terms of escorting, finding out exactly what someone wants is the challenge. Because everyone is different, at different times, indicators of success are sometimes hard to identify. It all comes down to communication: for example, my visitor told me that he would just like to be naked in bed and hold me while we talked. We did this, and time went by very fast. Somehow I felt like what we did was not enough for him, as if I should have initiated something more sexual. But since the message was quite clear from the start, I honored the request of no sex. But just because someone says one thing doesn't necessarily mean that is what they want.

To illustrate this point, another person gave me a list of all the things he wanted to do in order, and how much time to spend on each action. After following his instructions exactly, he told that that I did fine, but he wanted me to surpass his expectations, not just meet them. A lesson about how difficult some people can be to please by doing exactly what is asked for. So what is an escort to do?

While I do not think that I am the best escort in the world (how can anyone ever earn that title?), I do try my best in providing a service to satisfy my clients, to a certain degree (and safety). But to stress myself out each time I see them, and to feel inadequate after the session is not the reason why I do this work (if so, I would have stayed in the Canadian military as an officer). With so many nice clients who make me feel good about myself, I rather stick to those I can make happy. Being free to chose who I see again is a luxury, as many people I know have job conditions that are less than ideal.

Resolutions for 2011 is to continue to refine my method of escorting to please a wider client base, to provide more pictures and videos online and in my print advertising, and to deepen existing relationships to mutual benefit. I wish all my readers good luck in their resolutions for this year, as well as good health and prosperity. Happy New Years my friends!

Keeping in touch,
Ronielle

First Time Clients: Never Paid for It Before Now

2010-12-06T18:53:00.001-05:00

The critical point where one decides that paying for a good time is always an interest to me. Never having to pay for sex, I do see myself doing it if the circumstances were right; but what exactly would those circumstances be? By musing over what my clients tell me, the pictures starts to become clear.

I would have to be looking for a long time on who I would want to see. Advertisements online and in local papers is where I would start, as I feel more comfortable with a professional with contact information than meeting someone in person in a bar or on the streets. Researching all I can on him, and fantasize a while before I get the courage to make contact. This will be my first time, after all.

It may take years of patiently waiting, all the while cheacking to see if he is still in business, and if he has updated his photos. That is very important, because without photos who knows what will arrive. And updated photos mean a real pro, who constantly works out and stays in shape for his clientele. Face pictures will be considered first, as that will the face I will be kissing and looking at. If he is advertising for a few years, it would suggest that business is stable for him. It is very strange to see new escorts popping up and disappearing after a month or so, especially if they do not have pictures.

But even with all this research, what do I know of the escort's personality? Does he communicate well? Does he answer the phone in a pleasant manner, or write communications professionally and intelligently, ie complete sentances, capital letters where appropriate and punctuation? This first contact, even if it is not to make an appointment, will leave a lasting impression.

But even that doesn't seem enough to make the big step and do it. A good excuse would be sufficient, like celebrating something like my birthday, a promotion or holiday gift. Or downgrading the whole scene by telling myself that it is like an expensive massage, nothing serious, and wait until stressed to deserve a treat. Maybe unhappiness or unsatisfied with my current mate will drive me to the point. What about just wanting to see the escort and see if it clicks? These are all valid excuses to see my escort of choice.

Of course, like many personal things, I would keep this a secret. Not that I am ashamed of paying for good company, it is the fact that not everything needs to be everybody's business. A private life is exciting for me, and no one should know about it if they are not a part of it. If careful, no one will find out, and that is just the way I like it.

Under these circumstances (this is not a complete list, just off the top of my head), actually visiting my escort will become a strong possibility. And his is just the beginning!

This post was inspired by a recent client, who was seeing an escort for his first time. I listened.

Keep in touch guys, I love reading your comments!

Ronielle

Massage, My First Passion

2010-11-30T00:24:00.000-05:00

The humble beginnings of my career as an escort started in high school, where I decided to learn massage therapy with a group of friends for 2 projects; my biomedics course and my english course. When I graduated, I put out an ad in the local paper for $20 massages: my strategy was to get as many clients as possible and get experience. And that I did!

As I moved around and settled in Montreal, I started massaging for $40/hour. I placed an ad in different publications to test their responses, and realized that people also wanted sex.

Starting out pretty much on my own in a new city, I felt pressured into crossing the line from "professional massage" to "sexual massage". Luckily my best friend at the time was an escort, and he was very helpful in guiding me, although I did not take all of his advice. Using real names was not something many escorts do, nor do they show their face in publications. My authentic identity is what set me apart from the competition.

But coming back to massage, my passion was to heal the body by touching and manipulating muscles, and providing enjoyment and pleasure to my client. For many years I did both, escorting when I can, and massaging as my full time job. My mind goes deep into the flesh, and I enjoyed the feeling of concentration as I attempt to perfect my healing techniques. It really is something that was fun for me.

Escorting provided more financial freedom, however. Deciding to stop massaging and do only escorting was a hard decision for me, but circumstances pulled me in that direction. But once in a while a visitor asks for a massage during our escorting session, and I give the best that I can do. Sometimes the results of my massage is another massage for our next session, until it becomes a regular part of our routine. This pleases me, as I can continue my practice without sacrificing benefits, and we both get the best of both worlds. Somehow, in the larger scheme of things, this was to be expected. With the escort and massage profession so close together, there comes a time where it overlaps completely, and passion is fulfilled in more than one way.

When looking from my point of view, I have the best job in the world for me, and being my own boss is the cherry on top. My humble beginnings of $20/h massages to my current rate of $150/h, the type of clientele changes with each raise. While no offense is intended to anyone, my current clientele is the best in terms of compatibility with my personality. Now is the time I look back after all these years and enjoy the experience. Everything I learned from my guys in the past is being used now with my current visitors. The fun part: I'm still learning. There is no job stagnation for me!

As the last month of the year 2010 approaches, revisions come to the surface. It is normal for me to question myself as there is no one else qualified who can do a yearly evaluation on my own job performance. I promise not to be too hard on myself!

Keep in touch!

Ronielle

Golden Showers/Water Sports/Piss Play Requests

2010-11-20T18:18:00.000-05:00

One of my popular requests, this is one that I am willing to be the pee-er rather than the pee-ee. More clearly, I rather give the shower than take it myself. For those still confused on what this is all about, golden showers is the act of urinating on someone or the drinking urine in an erotic context. The fetish usually requires two people, where one is the peeing on the other; in some cases both urinate simultaneously on the each other.

I have done this for some clients, and it was rather fun watching a guy enjoy himself under my stream. In a more analytical/metaphysical point of view, the heat of my urine is from my own body, and as heat is a form of energy (and the urine is the vector in which it is transported) one could say that a golden shower is a way of transferring energy from one lover to another. Enjoying someone enjoying it is pleasure resonance, which is completely dependent on the situation. Perhaps I think about such things too much, maybe to distract myself from the fact that normally waste products from our body is generally thought of as disgusting. Blame me for having an open mind.

When someone calls and asks for permission to pee on my and make me drink it, I refuse. In this case I do not particularly enjoy it, and if this is what my potential client wants, then this is humiliation. Pleasure resonance is not occurring, and in someway demeaning to me. At this point in my career as an escort I do not wish to demean myself by doing something I don't want to do. The act of being urinated on is not demeaning if you like it, but forced to drink it against your will is a violation, and money is not enough to justify that violation.

When someone throws money in your face to make you do something you don't want to do, my awareness is on the underlying motivation for the desire. Is it a thrill to win a negotiation? To feel powerful to make others do what you want? To enjoy seeing others in displeasure? In any case, it is not my cup of tea, and unlike some others in the sex industry, I am not in desperate need for cash to put aside my principle.

One guy called and asked me how much to do bareback, because "everyone has their price". Unfortunately for him, the only price is to be my exclusive lover, who is the only one who has that privilege. I didn't tell him that, though. I just said no, and to find someone else to do it. The sad part is, someone will say yes to him.

I feel grateful to have a clientele that has supported me all these years to become who I am today. I realize that it is not every escort that can say that, and I know quite a few over the years. Perhaps by selecting good clients and becoming their friends, the adage "you are the company you keep" holds true. And these people I would gladly pee on if they asked me too.

Ronielle

Arriving On Time

2010-11-03T18:30:00.001-04:00

Many people, including myself, have been taught to arrive early for an appointment. However, arriving early for an escorting session may not be as appreciated as it would be in a business setting. I cannot speak for other escorts, but for me, arriving on time is the best thing. First of all, I am expecting clients to arrive on schedule, not early. Some guys have come a whole 30 mins early, and I might not even be home! Thinking that I have stood them up, they don't show up at all at the scheduled time. A misunderstanding? I don't know what to call it, except a bad day for me.

Secondly, because I take my shower right before my guest arrives, anyone arriving early gets me soaking wet at the door. Not very fun, and not the way to start a session. Although I understand the eagerness for some to get to me earlier, and after a decade or so of escorting I know better than to shower at the last minute, it still happens because of my procrastinating nature and my thrill to be exactly on time. When will I ever learn?

The obvious solution is to be ready earlier. My other idea was to write a post to let guys know how I feel about early birds. So here it is, as simple as that. Luckily, its not a big problem one way or another, but some may think when I tell them to be on time and not early next time is a reprimand. I guess I should just keep my mouth shut, but how would they know unless they read this blog?

No hard feelings to those who arrived early in the past, it just makes me feel unprofessional to open the door wet with a towel around my waist. At least they know I'm clean!

Please be on time, and everyone will be happy!

Peace out,

Ronielle

Divocups A Major Stress Reducer

2010-10-28T16:53:00.001-04:00

At least for me!

Inside the flu and cold season yet again, this time with much less stress than before. If I got sick, I simply don't escort until I get better. But now that the penis cups are selling steadily, it will continue to generate income regardless of my health. After 10 years or so of escorting, it is great to have a security net like this.

Although the divocups are selling around the world, very few of my escorting clients seem interested in penis enlargement via the cups. I don't mention this to try to trigger sales, but just an observation. Can anyone enlighten me? My best guess is that the desire for a bigger penis has been killed long time ago when told it was impossible. Even with living proof in front of them, perhaps it is not worth the effort. But that sounds like the discouraging self-talk when starting a new diet or exercise program: resistance to change, with a twinge of fear of failure.

But clients don't come to see me about that, they come to have fun. And fun it is! With a very nice group of clients, this fall has been great. Client life-cycle continues to evolve, to the point where most understand that they must make an appointment days in advance, and last minute clients are looking elsewhere.

Targeting to bottoms has also worked, and will continue as fucking is my favorite sexual activity. I am lucky as the prospect of combining business with pleasure, as well as penis enlargement and daily exercise, are all rolled into one convenient package. These are exciting times in my life right now, as things fall in the right places.

Escorting is still a full time job for me, working almost everyday of the week. There are many calls that I have not answered due to work, but hopefully they will call again and be successful in making an appointment. But this method is successful in prioritizing my existing clientele, who schedule me far in advance.

Although my policy with clients is not to pry in their private lives, I am still curious to what information they are willing to share with me. As my circle of friends gets smaller and smaller and farther away, clients are becoming more important for my social well-being. When we both have time, I enjoy a good pillow-talk to round off the session.

Many former clients have contacted me to touch base, and to let me know that interruption of visits are finacially motivated and not by any wrong-doing on my part, which inspires a sigh of relief and happiness to re-establish contact. I wish them all the success they can handle, and encourage them to maintain contact with me. After all, many of my friends are former clients.

Thanks to all who read my stuff, until next time!

Love the world!

Ronielle

Bareback and Money

2010-10-19T17:06:00.001-04:00

Today a man corresponded with me by email, ultimately looking for a long term escort with whom he can get fucked 'safely' bareback. He claims, on his word, that he is hiv-, clean and free of disease.

What is my interpretation of this message? I will let you know right now.

My Guiding Assumptions in terms of sex with strangers:

1. Everyone is lying about their claim of "disease-free". Reason? If they want bareback sex, and will say anything to get it. They may believe they are clean, which is totally different than actually being clean. Even medical testing is not totally reliable.

2. Someone who looks for and gets unprotected anal sex with prostitutes is not someone who cares about their prostitute's health. They care more about the momentary good feeling of skin on skin, instead of long term ramifications of getting infected.

3. There are a lot of other escorts who will do it. So let them take the client. I am not so desperate for money that I would take the risk. Escorting for me is a career, not a way to buy my next fix of drugs.

4. I will lose many potential clients because of my use of condoms. However, since I do not work when I am sick, even with a cold or a sore throat, that by itself is a loss of potential income. Imagine the long term loss of income should I get sick on antiviral medications. in the end, I rather have a loss of income and be healthy than have a loss of income and be sick. Let's call it "Escort Risk Management"

5. People ask for bareback as a test of my integrity. They don't really want to have high risk activity, they just want to make sure their escort lives up to their claim of being "clean and safe". Someone who insists on taking the first steps in protecting themselves are more likely to live up to their reputation as safe.

6. Barebacking clients are maliciously infecting sex-workers with the motivation of revenge. These type of people actually exist, and infected escorts rarely receive any sympathy from anyone should they become infected. I have actually witnessed doctors who reduce the level of professionalism once they hear that I am a sex-worker (in a clinical setting). We have the reputation to be lower than dogs in modern society. So these malicious clients are actually doing the public a favor by infecting us.

The last assumption is especially powerful to me. Knowledge and protocols are the only way to effectively deal with these evil men. If pre-screening during the initial communications works, it minimizes on-the-spot disputes and confrontations when the condoms are reached out for.

The guy in question told me that he barebacks with other escorts and that he is still clean. Was that meant to reassure me?

The last thing my potential client wrote is that "money talks". In that case, we don't speak the same language. I'm glad that I care about myself enough to not let it get to me. But ranting about it on my blog sure helps!

At times like this, I am lucky to have the clientele that I have now. As good escorts are hard to find, good clients are also in short order. One more assumption:

7. Treat good clients in the best way possible. They provide comfort and care as well, and can be a good friend even when escorting is a thing of the past. In this case, it is a win-win situation. Not to mention loads of fun!

Dreaming of a perfect world...

Ronielle

Getting Topped

2010-10-15T17:22:00.000-04:00

While the trend lately was being the big top, I am very pleased to be the lucky bottom this week so far. With the joys of topping coupled with the joys of bottoming, this side of the coin gives me more insight of how much pleasure a bottom can have with a great top, and learning a few new moves borrowed from my recent encounters. The next bottoms I have will no doubt benefit from these lessons! The joys of versatility...!

[Begin sales pitch] My Divocups have arrived today! Yay! I wrote a post on my divocup.com blog about how they will be shipped, etc. (Promotion is free shipping, and 15 min personal instruction via webcam on size selection and putting one on and off is included for each new customer). [End sales pitch.]

But back to topping, one sensation I could not stop thinking of is the feeling of cock inside me, not moving in and out, but just throbbing. Feeling the pulses of your lover's heart though his hard cock to your eager shoot is a subtle sensation, but undeniably sexy and exciting. Perhaps it is a foreshadowing of the moment of climax, where it seems as if a twin barrel rifle is flaring and ejaculating hot liquid deep inside to cover my guts, and the opening of my hole is around the trigger. Maybe that's it, the reason it feels second only to cumming...

[Sidebar: as I write this I glance over my shoulder and find my male Boston terrier (Yoda) and my new Boston female (Yoko Ono) screwing and stuck. Perhaps I shouldn't type out loud d(-_-)b ]

I don't usually write so erotically, but the sensation is fresh in my mind, having learned my lesson last night and this morning by two different 'teachers'. And since I know they will read this, it is my pleasure to share what is on my mind.

Lesson learned: Throbbing feels great, and should be explored as a way to generate maximum pleasure using minimum physical energy. Kegel Exercises help boost the feeling of the throb, a term I describe as "dick flexing". Flexing dick while quietly inside your lover makes them pay attention to the union of your erogenous zones, and at that moment both minds are touching. The special feeling you have at that point is shared, and the connection takes place. If you are spiritual, I would call this the union of souls. This is by no means a permanent thing, but it is an intense feeling that seems to transcend our logical concept of love. Perhaps, in a more humorous tone, it is our sexual 'reset' button. You know, the one like many electronic devices have to reset it to factory parameters, only this time you don't use a blunt wooden toothpick (ever wondered why those reset buttons are recessed? I guess their makers believed a good deep poke will do them some good once in a while if things go wrong!)

Aware that the majority of the guys who visit me are not into penetrative sex at all, please do not discount the fact that penetration in fantasy is different from doing it in reality. Effort is required to learn the ropes of fucking (for both roles), and for many, sex is all about having fun in a more familiar manner such as masturbation, oral and frottage: things that connect us to early fun sexual notions as children (my theory though). Initial attempts of discovering anal sex for this group are usually not fun, and the feeling stuck with those lessons.The effort lies in finding the right partner at the right time of their life to reset their love-button and set the record straight: anal sex is soooooo good when it's good! The mental aspect becomes much more important and apparent when dealing with the backdoor...

Before I publish this post, I want to say thanks for the many people who have supported me all these years in their own ways, and grateful for the opportunity to write freely about my life and thoughts without suppression. Who would of thought that a simple prostitute can refocus their job to create an image of his world for all to see and share, without prosecution. If only the profession did not carry the weight of a bad reputation, then things would be very good indeed.

Thank you all for reading,
Love the world!
Ronielle
Doing the Oldest Profession in History

Safe Sex A Priority, Condoms for Oral Sex

2010-10-08T11:29:00.001-04:00

At my latest STD screening, my doctor has urged me to extend condom protocol to oral sex as well. The hassles of dealing with orally transmitted diseases is not worth it, and although most of my clients are not crazy about the idea of sucking on a protected dick, or getting sucked with a condom on, they appreciate the fact that i am being careful. With the increased popularity of bareback sex on the internet, diseases are spreading, and those of us who want to stay healthy must take precautions.

I realize that this condoms or nothing policy will reduce the number of clients I may have, but at least my chances of getting an infection (and passing it to others) are lower as well. What kind of example would I be if I didn't practice safe sex with all my clients? What kind of client refuses safe sex? Is this an issue of trust?

Trust is important, as long as it is well placed. Trust in safe sex protocol is good; trust in each partner to be clean is bad. Even someone without symptoms (like burning sensations while peeing) can be a carrier. How many people do you know who are hiv positive hide the fact (or lie)? I know quite a few, or to be quite frank, almost all the hiv+ guys i know have lied about it to me in the beginning. Lesson: trust safe sex, not people's words. If you catch something, you only have yourself to blame for knowing better but not acting on it. Pointing fingers doesn't cure infections.

Back on trust, in my opinion those who participate in unsafe sex may believe they are clean, but this is true probably because they are not getting tested frequently enough. Here is an typical scenario for those who get tested regularly:

Time for a blood test...make time to go to clinic

Blood samples taken...waiting for results

Worried if it comes back positive...scared about life changes if it happens

Results received...relief that it is negative (in my case)...confirmed safe sex is worth it

Trust in condoms are reinforced...staying clean takes effort...reward is being healthy

I do not mean to offend anyone who is into bareback sex (strangely enough I love watching it as porn, but not in practice). But as a public sex worker, I intend to minimize the spread of disease and keep myself healthy. My best clients are expected to be the same. An escort who does bare does so when there is nothing left to catch (or they so believe). So be warned!

Love and health to you all!

Ronielle

Back After A Long While, Fall Projects

2010-09-17T09:16:00.001-04:00

Wow, what a summer! Although a strange bit of bacterial infection deep in my right leg caused me to cancel clients for a few weeks during the month of August, everything is now in tip top shape healthwise. For those of you who didn't know, I was also preparing a wedding reception for a family member back in my hometown (Winnipeg), the second time being a wedding MC. So, to take advantage of my physical state at the time, I used my energies to concentrate on this fall project. I have to say that being in front of 400+ people holding on to my every word (ok, maybe not EVERY word, but you get the idea), is quite a thrill, and when it got down to it I wasn't nervous at all, despite personally knowing almost all the guests and the expectations (real or otherwise) they project on me. The wedding reception was a total success!

My comfort zone is one-on-one situations, taking time to listen and understand individuals at an easy rhythm. My previous occupation as a military officer prepared me to handle a large group of people by identifying team players to delegate effort towards one common goal, something I miss a lot when switching to a solitary self-employed business. This is why I accepted the challenge of Wedding MC (which for some people, is as complicated as missions could get, and require as much planning!)

But the wedding is all good and done, and in the aftermath and post-partum depression (my baby, my BA-by!), the joys of communicating to my readers about the various unusual topics I hold dear to my heart returns with a vengence. A backlog of escorting clients, penis enlargement consultations and evolution of my divocup project has kept me busy from the morning i turn on my technolgy to when i plug them in to recharge at night. I wish that i had a few personal assistants/slaves to help out, but that would not stop me from biting something bigger than i can chew.

Speaking of chew, penis enlargement does pose risks, especially when successful. The rate of inexperienced bottoms asking me to penetrate them for the first time is increasing, probably due to the wording in my latest print ad in the Fugues magazine "Total Top".

This may confuse some readers who know me as versatile, however, realizing that many people do not use the internet (and print helps cover that demographic quite nicely) i wanted to appeal to the vague notion that there are more bottoms than tops in Montreal. According to my schedule, I think that has a grain of truth in it.

It is great to be back writing again to you all! Hopefully I entertained you for a few minutes in your otherwise busy day. But I have a feeling I had more fun writing this post than doing the stepmaster at the downtown YMCA (which I am on right now tapping this post on my droid smartphone)

Until next time my dear friends!

Ronielle, over and out.

Ps. Join me on facebook, my profile is Ronielle Buduhan. The old Ronielle Montreal profile is deactivated since double profiles are no longer allowed. TTYL!

Reports of Sexless Relationships, Casualties of Cancer

2010-07-27T15:49:00.001-04:00

Prostate cancer, and the treatment for it, can spell disaster for the sexual aspects of a long term relationships. Mismatched sex drives of couples is so common that there should be a standard protocol to deal with it, other than permission to seek sex outside the relationship (which works in theory but ultimately leads to more complications in practice). So what do you do when the person you love no longer wants to physically make love to you anymore?

That's a big question, one that I encounter not only frequently with clients in relationships, but in many of my past relationships as well. Perhaps it is worse when people pay to have sex with me when my own partner won't even bother. But the same conclusion is there: unhappiness being stuck in a relationship; horniness, frustration and perhaps some self-destructve tendencies like over-eating, drugs, drinking and smoking can creep into the desperate situation.

This is your challenge. You can concentrate on yourself and save yourself. No one can love you until you can love yourself. Be strong, and if you dream of being more happy without your partner then perhaps everything you have been holding on to in that relationship is but an illusion or an excuse for not being the person you want to be. Don't blame others, it is a sad attempt to hide the fact that we are responsible for our own lives and the inability to make positive changes. If all your mental energy is spent on negativity like complaints and nagging, there is not much energy left to grow and nurture and support yourselves and others.

So how does this all fit in to escorting? I listen to people, and I understand that no one chooses to be in this situation. I am the affection outsource. The pain of loving and not being loved in return hurts so bad, I can't be judgemental because true sympathy takes over. Since these guys are usually older, the feeling of being too old to start over is overwhelming. Deep down realizations that paying for sex (despite ingrained thoughts from societies' dim view of escorts) is probably the way to keep things in a therapeutic manner than risk further relationship problems with the current partner (which is already bad, which is why the escort is in play). During an eventual domestic dispute, the escort may be mentioned, and can be played in a way that there was no emotional attachement since it was sex for money.

In my dream world, there is a way of making everyone happy. Escorts are more important in the functioning of existing relationships as stress reducers/coucellors. And preventing your lovers' from being happy becomes a crime and dimly viewed in societies' eyes. But that is a dream on one escort, and it takes more than dreaming to make something true.

Striking Resemblence to Kellan Lutz

2010-07-20T18:20:00.000-04:00

My friend saw these pics in a Celebrity magazine and made me take a look. Now here they are for you to take a look!

So weird, but yet so cool! I wouldn't mind meeting him in person, but I guess I would have to wait in line for this guy!

Heat-wave in Montreal!

2010-07-14T10:44:00.001-04:00

Staying cool in my much quieter air conditioned room for escorting, I realize just how much of my life is spent in the bedroom. I guess it all started as a kid, horny as hell, anxiously awaiting the time I would have a serious sexual relationship with a man. Well, that time has come, and I don't regret my childhood being over.

On the contrary, I wished I was an adult back then, just because sex would be allowed. Turning an obsession to profession was always in the back of my mind.

A question that pops up is, how is sex taught to children? Sex education in schools (for me) is pretty lame. There are so many restrictions because they have non-specialists talking about an uncomfortable subject. If only society would be more open to accepting my profession and to use us to educated the next generation. Perhaps then we can reduce the number of sexual hangups, confusion and unwanted pregnancies, and screen for homosexuals so we wouldn't grow up feeling alone in our own world.

Living in my bedroom brings back memories, who knew that it will eventually become my office? At least there is more room to breathe than a closet!

As a matter of fact, in a mood to record my memories on a mindmapping program, I found a consistent pattern in my life: happiness through physical pleasure and pain.

Affection Outsourcing

2010-06-24T10:25:00.001-04:00

Affection is something that can fizzle away after years of living together. This is true for straight and gay couples, as well as with our families and animal pets. So what can be done about? Living in sub-clinical misery is not the only option.

The decline of relationship pleasure and affection is noted by changes in bodyweight, which coincides with the symptoms of depression. The more someone gains weight, the less attractive they feel, and when the partner doesn't notice, it means that they are not worth noticing. And like a weed, it will grow unchecked if not nipped in the bud.

So what does a man do when in a couple and not getting enough affection? The first thing is to talk to your partner, and that is not easy without bringing up feelings of blame and other defense mechanisms to reduce fault. If the net result from such a discussion is positive, then you reap the rewards of maintaining good communication. But when things are worse off than before, and you really need to find some loving and affection, then outsourcing is a viable option. Getting your affection from elsewhere while maintaining status quo with your current partner doesn't seem logical, but if you remember that if a massage feels great, making love with a good actor is the step above it. And it feels good to have someone on standby while dealing with your problems. Listening to clients who need someone to pay attention to them, being taken for granted by their lovers seems to be the underlying message.

While many would feel like they are cheating, some live this way for years anyways. Falling in love feels good, but falling in love with an escort is safe, since the client is in control over how much time he wants to spend. Love with our regular lover changes over time, and because of habit or feeling prisoner men do not want to start over with a new person and run the risk of rejection all over again. So you should do what it takes to make yourself more happy; find someone whose answers to your desires are yes.

Even one session provokes strong emotions. In many cases it renews the individual and gives courage to face the relationship in a more positive light. In some cases, it opens up one's mind and clarity sets in, and one knows what they want and don't want in life. Quite a few of my clients have come out of the closet during the time I've known them.

But on the other hand, some do not have regular sex partners for various reasons. These guys are single, and concentrate on work. Relationships are often difficult, so avoiding them is a way of life. This is where escorting becomes their only means of getting affection, and a symbiotic relationship develops. These relationships are essential for both involved, since everyone wins and goes home happy. The escort pays his bills, and the client has something to distract his mind for a short while until the next time.

But acting affectionate is still affection given; over time and continued association this acted affection becomes genuine. Escorts know exactly how to please their regular clients over the long term because it is our job to know. In. A regular relationship the partner is not required to maintain a high level of pleasure, since there is security that the other will always be present no matter what. This is untrue for escorts, where if the client is not satisfied they could easily find another escort. Perhaps this loose tie is what makes it so easy to cheat, since there are no expectations once all transactions are completed.

Wow, this post is long! Time to enjoy St Jean Baptiste Day, which is Quebec's holiday. Have fun and take care!

On Circumcisions

2010-06-14T11:06:00.001-04:00

An age-old debate from antiquities, but still relevent: circumcision. Being sexually experienced both before and after circumcision , I actually enjoy sex much more without foreskin. The condoms stay on tight, my foreskin no longer blocks my cocksucker's airway, and it smells a lot cleaner!

But there was a side effect from the surgery: numbness of the glans. Within the first few months after the cut is when most of the feeling had frictioned off, and desensitization set in. It lasted for several years.

Another side effect was the reduction of precum I produced. Before the cut, the mere hint of erection would get my juices flowing. Now, dry as a desert. I don't know why though. Its cleaner, though!

But I have seen many clients with undilated foreskins. This means that the skin doesn't retract over the shaft because the head cannot pass though the opening. This is corrected by surgery or progressive dilation. But to some, this is a condition that doesn't need to be fixed. Only concern is the harboring of spores and microorganisms that can pass as yeast infections to other unprotected sex partners, as these infections are known to love moist warm folds of skin (like in vaginas and foreskin). Dick cheese (a.k.a. smegma), anyone? Not the curds you want to find in your occasional poutine.

Living in Montreal, the majority of the penises I see are uncircumcised. The reason was that the hospitals started charging for the service, which was free. So many opted to save money.

My father was pro-choice. He wanted me to decide what to do to my own body when the time was right. It is rare to have foreskin in the Filipino culture, but it is more common in indigenous regions like Bontoc and Ifugao. And since there are so many types of filipinos, we come in all flavors. Cut, and uncut is one of those varieties.

So, there is the lowdown on circumcision from me. I think I wrote about it before somewhere, so forgive me if I start repeating myself. Ha.

I love out guys for your continued readership! Your comments are the fuel for these posts. Keep them coming!

Frottage for Sensual Safe Sex

2010-06-09T10:57:00.001-04:00

Penetration scares many people, so why all the focus on it? Frottage is french for "rubbing", which in this context means rubbing body to body in a sexually pleasing manner.

This subcategory of sex is unique in which both partners can face each other to kiss while rubbing penises together. Comfort is key, so frottage is the way to go if you want to avoid complicated and strenuous positions.

Frottage is considered a safe sex practice, if there is an absence of open sores. Condoms can also be used as a semen collector if cleanliness is paramount, or for those into semen fetishes. Risk of herpes, and other contact-transmitted diseases can be avoided by dry-humping.

Dry-humping is the term used when there is materiel between genitals separating them. Fully clothed, prolonged stimulation has risks of physical friction and chaffing. This is frequently the preliminary for frottage in the nude.

Penetration anxiety is something I encounter quite frequently, as gays usually describe themselves sexually by the terms "top", "bottom", and "versatile". This usually implies the desire to have penetration during sex. But what of those who don't identify to those limited terms? Terms such as "Oral only", "mutual masturbation", and the like carry stigmas of limitations to "real" sex, which is why many men use the term "top" to describe their sexual role in one word. Top implies that the man does not enjoy anal penetration, which fulfills part of the real situation by definition, but also implies the enjoyment of penetrating, which is misleading to bottoms looking for a good, thorough ass-fucking.

Until a better term is coined, "frottage" is the term I would like to hear from clients if that is what they would like to do with me. The word describes quite a bit for me, since this was the way I discovered the pleasures I can get with my penis as a young boy. But that is a story best left for a separate post!

Showing Too Much?

2010-06-04T08:59:00.001-04:00

Reading an email the other day, it was suggested that I show a little too much of my penis. He mentioned teaching a guy to charge $90 just to show his dick, nothing else. While that sounds very profitable, there is something that prevents me from adopting that approach. While I know that many of my dear readers may never come see me for an escorting session, for whatever reasons, I am pretty sure that if I was not an escort I would still be an exhibitionist.

Perhaps I am not as good as these other guys in the business in terms of revenue, but one thing I know is that the more money you ask from someone, the less attractive you become to them, which ultimately leads to feelings of being used just as a source of income. This is not a life-long policy, but it is a way of making more moolah.

My philosophy is that basing a relationship on trust and respect can lead to symbiosis, where total benefits for both are not limited to financial gain. Friendships remain when employment end, and escort-client relationships evolve to comraderie. This is where many of my past clients are, and that is something I am proud of.

Inspirational Clients

2010-05-28T10:59:00.001-04:00

Meeting an individual who, at retirement, decided to become a bodybuilder. It was a life-long dream for him, and as an executive he focused mainly on his office job. I met him before he started seriously training, so I was there from the beginning to witness his transformation over the span of over 7 years.

Bodybuilding is a hard sport. Mentally we must be strong to continue to challenge our bodies. Physically we must endure fatigue and aches as our body undergoes changes. And socially we make sacrifices to eat well and become a healthy example to all who know us. I started at age 16; he started at age 63. You may lower your eyebrows now.

Now, here is what you have been waiting for, the lesson we learn from his example. He continued bodybuilding, became a personal trainer, and won a few bodybuilding competitions by age 67. And he is still very much sexually active, of which hormone replacement therapy may most likely be attributed to. You must have enough desire for your goals to see them though, no matter what the obstacles (including age). But what is left once your dreams are fulfilled?

Dentures, an Escorts Delight!

2010-05-21T09:05:00.001-04:00

The times when men smile with a naughty glint in their eyes as they look at me while slipping their full denture out of their mouth and under the pillow are sights to remember. The first time, akwardness. The second time you know what is coming, and gum jobs are the new crowd pleasers.

Everyone has a quality that can be put to good use. When many people want to hide the fact that they wear a dental prosthetic, some use it to their advantage in the bedroom.

To those who wear partials, those can be deadly! For my sake, if the dentist asks, go for the full denture!

While gum jobs have the potential to be great, they can also be not so fun. Loss of gum tissue can make bony protrusions. The answer lies in proper cushioning with the tongue, to cradle the penis and baste it with in-mouth saliva. A yummy treat indeed!

But to those uncomfortable with gummers, all you have to do is get out of your head and into the body, and let the gums speak for themselves!

Video Chat Model

2010-05-17T07:55:00.002-04:00

I was wondering if any of my dear readership also pay to view web cam models. What I was wondering are the following:

-if anyone is interested in a following a show to control premature ejaculation

-if anyone is interested in a show where I demonstrate how to jelq and encourage my viewers to jelq along with me.

Theses are two sex-improving exercises that take about an hour to complete, at least a few times a week. A full demonstration from start to finish will greatly aid understanding in not to rush to the finish line, as can happen following text instructions.

I think that these are probably not seen very often as themes on webcam shows, but if there is enough interest I can make it happen on the most popular networks only. Web cam model is a job in itself, and with a handful of viewers it is much more worthwhile. Recruiting my own viewers from my blogs seems to be a natural extension, especially if I connect with a common subject of interest that is helpful and entertaining.

The three main issues for men (if there are any issues) as seen from my point of view as an escort are:

-premature ejaculation

-erectile dysfunction

-penis enlargement

Of course, the mental aspect of closeness, intimacy and true boyfriend experience is a challenge to convey via cam, especially on a broadcast. How can someone advertise these services without somehow feeling sorry for those seeking what should be free for most people? (Unfortunately, those in relationships can sometimes forget what benefits they are entitled to, especially when the 'honeymoon is over') Until I know the trick, letting my personality show through while empowering the individual to overcome what they feel needs improvement is the way to proceed.

Online Consultations (My Dream Job)

2010-05-14T09:47:00.002-04:00

Yesterday I received payment via paypal for an online consultation. In a nutshell, the client had read a previous post on andropause and he needed information on finding a specialist within his area. I found doctors and resources to get him well on his way to male hormone replacement therapy.

You can probably tell that I enjoy researching, writing and helping people. Finding information is fun, but the big motivation to prioritize the search was the fact he paid me in advanced. I provided route maps from his zip code to the clinics, as well as access to a national andropause awaremess network in the USA. Since doctors listen for keywords on the psychological aspect of andropause, I mentioned to list various complains such as lowered libido (even though he thinks it is normal). There is no need for false bravado, as saying that everything is fine is a common lie men tell their doctors although struggling with maintaining erections at times.

Dig deep down, find real concerns as you age, and tell the doctor the truth (or ask your partner for observations). Loss of sexual vitality affects your sexual partners as well, so it is in everyone's best interest to stay in top hormonal shape if you want to continue with a healthy sexual relationship.

Although I am not a doctor nor a psychologist, I do consider myself a researcher. So any questions you may have I consider it a personal challenge to find answers for you. Of course, being a paid consultant is what I consider a dream job!

It';s Even Better With A Shared Meal

2010-05-11T08:54:00.002-04:00

Recently I had a wonderful session to celebrate our 6 year anniversary with a client/friend. Like most of our sessions together, this one was for 3 hours. The surprise was that I prepared a meal for after the 3 hours, just to eat together for the occasion.

Just to be clear, the meal was not calculated as part of our time. When the situation warrants it, i do something special if my client mentions something about a significant date like birthdays or anniversaries. In any relationship, celebrating special dates is fun when importance of it is not overly stressed, but still considered important enough to commemorate. 6 years of association is a lot for anyone, and what it means to me is that I have reached a level of service where I want to go beyond what is usually called for (for an escort), but not all the time to the point I drive myself crazy. Just for special occasions.

But the experience was so different and fun that the idea has crossed my mind to offer the entertainment and dinner package to anyone who chooses the 3 hour package. Of course, since most will not be celebrating 6 year anniversaries with me, the time for dinner will be part of the three hours, not after. Considering the fact that I plan and cook the meal myself before the session, I think that all in all it is a good way to go for those special occasions, and it feels more like a date with a good friend than anything else.

The best part is getting to know each other better, which goes quite far when considering a potential life-long contact. Even when the escort/client phase diminished, friendship and mutual respect still form the basis of continued contact in a non-sexual relationship. Many former clients still call on a social basis, which pleases me as a person. But as a matter of professionalism I prefer to be contacted, rather than be the one to contact the other. Some associations are best left private and discreet.

Viva Los Loose Asses!

2010-05-09T00:06:00.001-04:00

I have to confess a preference for fucking loose butts. This feeling of easily sliding in, all the way through on the first thrust is very exciting. The images of Tom of Finland drifts through my mind, his huge cock stabbing deeply into a eager and ready rectum. Here are some recommendations to get your hole 'Tom' ready:

1. Anal douche with warm-hot water. Be careful not to use burning hot water (Guess how I found out :-)

2. Finger sweep your rectum with as many fingers as possible, and loosen your ass to go as deep as you can with your hand. Get familiar with the internal structures, because that is exactly where my dick will go to mix you up like a mojito muddler.

3. Practice to loosen and tighten your sphincter (asshole muscles), because these are the muscles you will relax when you want to get penetrated.

4. Practice pushing and relaxing your rectum muscles. These are your crapping muscles. Relaxing them allows for deeper, ass splitting thrusts.

The best position I find to be the most relaxing of all the anal penetration poses is when the bottom is lying flat on his stomach. His heels are allowed to fall to the outside, toes pointing inward on the bed. This leg rotation relaxes the buttocks and allows mental concentration to be centered on the anus. The top lubricates his penis, the bottom's hole and inner butt cheeks. Apply two coat of lubricant on these areas as the first coat tends to be absorbed by dry skin. The top ensures the the hole of his penis and the bottom's hole are in-line using his finger to locate the opening as the tip approaches for penetration. As the bottom feels the tip pressing into him, he presses his rectum out to open the anus and a smooth entry is ready to happen.

So there you have it in a nutshell, one possible scenario that I consider a sure way of success for anal penetration, for those who are not very comfortable getting fucked but wished they could enjoy it. Removing pain goes a very long way to enjoying lovemaking.

Ordeals of the Penis

2010-05-05T10:00:00.002-04:00

The weeks go by as the last of winter is washed away by warm spring rain. Mating season has official started, and with intensity. Unfortunately this may cause some lovers to be overzealous and cause me more physical pain than pleasure, at least in my case. Although my dick is bigger, it is not invulnerable to death grips and teeth-scrapes. Why someone would squeeze a big dick twice as hard as an average size dick and think they were causing pleasure?

I rant about it because pain is a definite boner shrinker for me, especially when it is directed to my penis. It seems to be happening quite regularly, which warrants another blog post on the subject. I only ask is that people be gentle with penises in general, and your first reacting to touching one should be to hold and cradle it like something precious. Big breasted women probably feel the same way when their tits are treated like supermarket melons, to be squeezed disrespectfully as if they were not connected to a feeling person.

Now what I like is to be respectfully stroked and caressed, not pulled or bent or squeezed. I get more pleasure making love than rough sex, although rough is often the request of many new clients. Those who make slow passionate love with me have the greatest chance of seeing me again, as I have less anxiety seeing them than those who massacre my member. Rough sex makes me feel dirty, and the pain is not worth repeating.

As a prostitute, I am paid to have sex. As an escort, I am rewarded for the love I make. These are distinctions that help me define my profession, and to protect not only my body but also my sanity. Respect your partner and be prepared to be respected in return.

Love is everything!

Guilty Orgasms

2010-04-28T16:57:00.000-04:00

I have seen my share of these, and even had a few of them myself. "Orgasm guilt" is left behind when passion and lust have been satisfied. Guilty feelings have many sources: adultery, self-pity, religious reasons, shame, and probably many others. Perhaps these post-orgasmic lows balance out the great feelings associated with sexual pleasure. But what I am more interested in knowing is this: are these guilty feelings necessary? And if not, how can this pattern of guilty feelings be broken?

I witness the transformation from pleasure to guilt even before the orgasm is finished (in some cases guilt sets in later near the end of the session). Some guys end the session at this point and leave. As I try to understand the situation, why would someone cut off the lingering pleasure of an orgasm? Do they know that ejaculation and orgasm are separate and different events (but usually happens simultaneously)?

But a more pressing question is this: are guilty feelings after sex a problem for the individual? If not, why bother fixing something that is not broken?

For me, I love seeing my guys happy. When they look guilty or ashamed, I can't help but feel like I'm the direct cause. I become the snake at the tree of knowledge, tempting "innocent" people into tasting my forbidden fruit. Part of me is happy to be desired in that way, and that part also wants to be happy seeing my partner happy. Everyone is different, and we all live in our own bubble. If I can't change the way some people feel after love making, then I only hope to cause more pleasure than grief.

On the most part, my guys seem to enjoy themselves, and so do I! My philosophy is simple:live in the moment as if it is the last time you will do it. Happiness is easier to achieve when we are grateful for what we have. So be happy after you come!

Andropause and Bio-T Blood screening

2010-04-23T16:30:00.000-04:00

As many of my friends are over the age of 45, I find myself concerned about their sexual health as they enter this phase of their lives. Natural production of testosterone declines after a certain age, and there are symptoms associated with it. I found a very nice Canadian website called andropause.ca that not only helps men understand what it is and what the treatment options are, but it addresses the issue that most doctors are not familiar with this condition, including your family doctor. There is a list (by province) of doctors who specialize in andropause.

I mentioned andropause to a few clients (over age 65) who have complained about weak erections and lowered libido, a few symptoms of the condition. They mentioned it to their (female) doctor, who discounted the possibility without doing a blood test that measures the bio-available testosterone in the sample. I felt sad and compelled to provide an outside source of information and a list of sympathetic doctors (at least to my Canadian friends).

Men that I know who are on supplemental testosterone have more energy, more life, and enjoy more their visits with me. When sex hormones are balanced these guys feel better than normal, and fatigue never seems to get to them like it did before supplementation. They don't accumulate body fat as fast as before, and their dicks get as hard as a rock like it did before. Erection drugs like Viagra and cialis work better, and that aspect makes sexual activity less worrisome.

Worrying about getting erections remove the mental energy that is needed for letting go and having fun. But with preparation and participation in adjusting to the natural changes that occur to everyone that ages, sex can get better than you remember because of the appreciation factor.

You can fully appreciate something when it is gone, and when you get it back after some effort, you will never let it slip away again. Sex is something joyful that we must never lose touch with. But when sex does leave a person's life, people around you can tell. You should witness the subtle transformation my friends undergo when they leave my apartment. Simply put, it's a good feeling for everyone!

Ronielle in Almost Naked Briefs at the Bal en Blanc 2010

2010-04-17T23:37:00.000-04:00

Sorry for the bad quality, it is from my Blackberry Curve 8330. I am in line to get in to the party, and there were a couple other scantily clad people in line with me. It was really fun, and I love when girls hug me to get a feel of it! I guess that it would be similar to the way straight guys like attention from gay men. The underwear is an Andrew Christian design, from the Almost Naked collection. These are the briefs in large white, made from 94% bamboo fibers and 6% spandex. A real thrill for an exhibitionist like me! The pouch felt so comfortable and light, really almost naked. Find it at andrewchristian.com

New Morning Gym/Sauna Routine for April

2010-04-15T08:44:00.001-04:00

I came up with idea since I rarely took showers at the gym, and when a good friend and long term client found out, he suggesting setting a regular schedule for showering and sauna-ing, to have a chance to chit-chat with guys and to satisfy my growing exhibitionist-ism (man, I hope you understand my creative use of english!). So far so good; every weekday I hit the showers at 10:30am. Talked with a few people there, as the gym is quite dead at this time.

I am back to my more serious workout routine in anticipation for summer. Needless to say I can wait to take my shirt off and walk my dogs! But the hardest part to do will always be the dieting. Oh well, hunger will become a close friend once again. I know that my body is doing well when I stay a little bit hungry all day, but still eating but never until I'm full. It may be the toughest thing to do everyday, but as long as it works my clients and I are both happy.

It's funny how my obsessions fall neatly in line with my profession. Enlarging muscles, penises, sex, exhibitionism... Is it too much? I guess time will tell. But someone has to do it, right? Lol As long as I am able to maintain it until I die, I suppose!

Anyways, if you workout at Nautilus in the montreal village on weekday mornings, check out the sauna around 10:30. There is a good chance I will be there waiting to start small talk. See you soon!

Spring and Sexual Fantasies

2010-04-12T09:01:00.004-04:00

Spring is here, and the rising of the essential fluids is bringing new life to winter wood. One thing I love about this time of the year is the way my libido seems to skyrocket, perhaps like an indicator of the sexual public. Bad, obscene thought pass my mind even while doing innocent things such as buying groceries and walking the dogs. My interest in public crotch-watching has increased as well, with some delightful new sights to enliven new fantasies.

Imagination is the heart of my healthy sexual appetite. I see someone who catches my attention, and I can immediately have sex with them in my mind. I creatively make scenarios to increase my pleasure, and the sky is the limit. Taboo and dangerous activities such as barebacking and internal cumshots are possible with strangers in the context of fantasy. And overcoming these real-life restrictions in fantasies are very exciting for me, since I have many desires but I am not willing to jeopardize my own safety and those of my clients while exploring uncharted territory.

Now, some of you may have heard my erotic stories in session, and a sure way of spicing things up is involving an element of risk to the fantasy. You can transport yourself to a time you were underage and the fantasy man is a super hero with a not-so-hidden sexual agenda. Or that you find yourself as fresh meat at the local jail; your cell-mate adamant in claiming his property.

Some guys have even more fun when they are degraded further in their fantasies. Being ridiculed for having a small penis is actually quite popular, even on the net. But it is usually accompanied by being ridiculed by a guy with a much larger dick, then pretty much forced to accept whatever abuse he has to offer. All for fun and games, and anything goes in fantasies.

Sharing fantasies is also risky, as I don't always want to feel judged when talking about my top secret imagery. So I have a tier-system of sorting fantasies: general, kinky, and sensitive.

General is safe: like telling someone you prefer blonds, or tits and asses, crotch-watching (my favorite sport!). Not much risk if anyone finds out your "secret".

Kinky is spicy; not everyone likes spice though. Sex with strangers, uniforms (cops, inmates, military, etc), forced sex and humiliation would fall in this category for me, as well as paying for sex. The big difference from general is that it could be too much information for many, and people may falsely judge you if they find out. The element of risk is increased.

Sensitive fantasies are almost never spoken out loud. The dark side of the force (to use a phrase from Star Wars) is where these fantasies call home. These are secret fantasies that can actually damage you if found by the wrong person. Pedophilia, bestiality, and fantasies that have serious legal implications in real life are best kept to one's self. Political careers can fall to one of these secrets. So powerful that it must not be shared, and one may regret sharing them. Obviously the extremely high level of risk is an aphrodisiac for many ambitious people.

So take a break during your day to savor a secret sexual fantasy. It is free, fun, and fulfilling. And have sex with your imagination! Remember: no limits.

Ronielle Ebook/scrapbook 2010

2010-04-08T13:51:00.003-04:00

I have been working on a photobook project in the past months to put together all my blog posts and the collection of photos of myself in one single book. I sent it to photobookcanada.com for publishing in print form, which resulted in my book being rejected for objectionable content in both image and written form. My big plan was to make a few copies and try to sell them, since there were many photos in the book that had never made it on my blog or to print advertising. So I am left with the option of selling an ebook version that can be downloaded for a modest fee of $20 by paypal. Contact me if you are interested and I will make arrangements for you to download it in pdf format. It is 108 pages long with screenshots of my blog entries and filled with never-before seen photos from long-forgotten photoshoots.

The book can then be printed from your own printer if you prefer. The original intention of the book is to have a copy of all that I have written up to now in print form for myself, but now I am offering it to those who would like for themselves. If I could find a publisher that would print it for me, I would do it. Does anyone know a small, open-minded publishing company who would be willing to do it? Let me know please!

New Blog on Chemical Penis Enlargement

2010-04-08T13:44:00.003-04:00

Hi to all!

I have started a separate blog for those interested in chemical penis enlargement. you can find it here at chemicalpenis.blogspot.com It is brand new, so please continue to look for more information in the weeks to come!

Many guys ask me how I did it, and most want to know what I measured before starting. Although I was a little larger that average at around 7 inches long by 5 inches around, I knew that I wanted one the size of big dicked porstars. Obsession led to results, which led to this new blog. Some old pics, some new pics, and some basic information on the process and where to find more information.

Check it out if you get the chance!

New review on Daddy's Reviews, Clients with ED

2010-03-18T15:15:00.005-04:00

Hi everyone! Spring is around a corner and the heat is on, and juices are flowing. The title of this post says it all, and here is the direct link for those who wish to read it.

Daddy's Review of Ronielle

Let me know if this link stops working though, since it may get moved around as it is very new. I would like to thank Corn Dog for writing it; I really appreciate all the feedback (good and negative) that I get, since I have no supervisor to give me a performance report.

I would like to add that I did get a negative email this year from a repeat client, and that I took his criticism to heart. I doubt that he will return, but it is a lesson that I will never forget. Sometimes I forget the situation and am too casual and talk about my personal romantic life, something that many clients prefer not to hear. So in the future I would prefer not to talk of such things unless I am absolutely sure it would be safe to do so. Even after a decade of escorting, I never stop learning.

I had a lot of time to think about why I love escorting so much, and one thing is certain: the challenges are always changing and nothing is dull or monotonous. As many of my relationships age, different issues are encountered; issues not normally faced with first time sessions. One of them is gradual impotence of aging men. I meet many guys in their 50's and 60's, and over the years I notice changes in erection strength (hopefully it is not due to me! Let's assume it is not). The look of frustration as erections fail is a concern I had to face with even as a young escort in his early 20's. I knew that if I don't get hard with my client, then he may tell other escorts, and reputations are set. When I couldn't get hard, feelings of worry and frustration compound the problem: clients rarely called me back if I couldn't make it work. Even worse, some guys would yell at me. So yes, I can totally sympathize with those with erectile dysfunction (ED).

My adverse reactions to common ED pills like viagra, cialis and levitra include headache, and nasal congestion. They are expensive, and don't always work. Fortunately one of the injectables used in chemical penis enlargement is an ED drug called Caverject. So I kill two birds with one stone: with each client I have guaranteed erections that doubles as a penis enlargement treatment. No headaches (in more than one sense) and no nasal congestion. It actually is a little cheaper than pills, a big bonus.

While I took care of my occupational ED, many clients feel uncomfortable talking to their doctors about it. Many places online sell the pills, as well as on the black market. But that doesn't help those who do not take drugs. These guys eventually reduce sexual frequency until they give up altogether and blame it on the natural aging process of man. But it doesn't have to be this way.

Escorting on a long term reveals new problems to be considered and solved. And this, along with the sexual pleasure it brings me on a daily basis, is the biggest reason I love it so much. Evolution and change stimulates me, and keeping my guys happy keeps me happy too. Ok, enough mushiness. For now...

Celebrating Anniversaries With My Men

2010-01-08T16:18:00.004-05:00

I started my new year with a 10 year anniversary with my very first client I ever had in Montreal. Bringing back memories, enjoying the present moment, and sharing the amazement of time flying by under our noses. I started as an out-call masseur at $40/h, and escorting secretly at $100/h. He was the first, the very first. He even came to see me compete at a wrestling tournament, as did many of my clients. When I face the past, there is a tapestry of people and events that shape who I am today. I am lucky to be a small part of their lives, and only after a long acquaintance do we realize its importance.

Next anniversary this week was 5 years. We had a great time as usual, even better than the very first. I surprised him with a sushi dinner, which I know he likes so much and that he only eats it with me as none of his friends are adventurous eaters. None of us knew that we would find ourselves enjoying each others' company so many years later, but here we are.

Both guys are single gay men who live alone, and both know that perhaps it will remain that way for a long time. The comfort of an escort helps with the occasional urges, but what remains in long term memories are not specific sexual acts, but the kindness and gentleness that seems to be rare these days. Although these qualities are rarely what one seeks when choosing an escort for the first time, they certainly help to determine whether to return for another encounter.

Feelings of love are very intimidating. If you want to turn someone off at the beginning of a relationship all you have to do is say the three little words. But when it is never said by either party, it has a different effect. These bottled up emotions are never wasted, but instead condense into something more pure. I am at a loss of words to describe it further, but those who have ever felt this way with someone will recognize what I am attempting to convey.

Most of my guys don't remember the first time we met, and I don't keep any records either. But when they do remember and tell me, I make sure to do something special as a token of my appreciation to them. It is the least I can do for the men in my life, as it is important in any relationship to have special occasions and to acknowledge them.

We raise our glasses to remember the past, clink them together to honor the present moment, and drink to our future, where ever it may lead us. Cheers! *clink* gulp!

Happy Holidays

2010-01-03T16:10:00.005-05:00

Welcoming the new year is always a time of reflection and anticipation a year ahead and a year forward. I also find the need to forgive myself for the mistakes I have made and the failed resolutions, then balance it with the successes and the total amount of happiness I have generated. Like nature, I tend to go dormant with my plants and my reptile friend, my pet turtle named Harlem. The photo-period decreases, and night is longer, and I also sleep longer. But this pattern gives me the symptoms of seasonal affective disorder
To counteract this effect I have installed LED panels throughout my home emitting full spectrum light of the intensity of full summer sun at noon, intended for salt water aquariums which also require this intensity. It has proved successful in relieving symptoms of SAD but required a few days to start taking effect. I wrote a few blog entries during that time, but did not post them because I felt that they would convey a contrary message. But now spring is approaching, and many plants are flourishing in my indoor garden, and daylight increasing everyday, everything seems fine and dandy.

I would like to say Merci to my friend who gave me chocolates for christmas, always a sinful treat. Thank you also to many out there for being very generous this christmas, it makes me smile when I count it when you leave. And thank you to all who I have seen during the holidays and those who have tried to make an appointment but couldn't get through, as I also enjoyed a few days off answering messages and work to enjoy the season of food, friends and family.

I wish to all of you to have a year full of love and appreciation, and a resolution to focus on parts of our lives that generates feeling of happiness and contentment. Enjoy the new year 2010! May it be our lucky year!

Thanks for the Tip!

2009-11-30T15:17:00.002-05:00

I was a little hesitant about the last blog entry concerning gratuities, however the result this week was rather remarkable: almost each time I received a tip, some being quite large (+$50) for one-hour appointments. Thank you all, you really make me feel great when you show your gratitude.

On another note: I have changed my working schedule for the flu season. One visitor per day is my new policy, as this will slash my exposure to potential airborne viruses. It will also considerably cut my revenue, which is also why I am no longer accepting regular client discounts that many have enjoyed since I increased my rates earlier this year. Apologies in advance to those who find the common rate unacceptable.

I am happy to be part of the lives of my clients. Here is a little story of what happened this past week.

I was listening to some music while working out at the gym when a song started playing (Adagio for Strings). This song reminded me of one of my clients/friends, who also happened to be on yahoo messenger while the song was playing. So I messaged him on the chat (which is an application that is installed on my cell phone) and told him I was thinking about him. We chatted briefly about being invited to his funeral (long-story-short, to play said song at his funeral) and then that was it. A simple exchange just to say I was thinking of you, something that technology has made simple via cell phone.

When I walk through the village, go to the gym, go groceries, many things go through my mind. Some for friends, some for family, but quite often it is about the men in my life who choose me to be their secret lover. The adventure and thrill of sex with strangers ripens as I discover that each person has an interesting tale to tell, but with sadly not enough time and energy to fully understand him (even if that was possible). I am reminded of that fact as my main problem in life is an over-active sexuality, which is now an asset that holds an inherent problem: too many people too little time. It is like a kid in a candy store: too many good things; but if I get as much as I want I will get sick from over indulging.

I caught a cold a few weeks back that forced me to cancel a week's worth of appointments, sorry if yours was one of them. I got my H1N1 vaccine last week, and I hope it works like it is supposed to.

Tomorrow is the first day of December, and soon the holidays. I plan to be here in Montreal this season, and seeing appointments until New Year's Eve where I will take a few days off.

Take care, and see you soon!

Telephone Etiquette

2009-11-02T12:04:00.003-05:00

Calling an escort can be difficult to do, especially if it is your first time. Keep in mind that it is not MY first time answering calls, so feel free to ask questions, and be brief with what you want.

For example:
Ronielle: hello, salut?
Caller: is this Ronielle?
R: yes it is, how can I help you?
C: do you advertise as an escort?
R: yes I do, what are you looking for exactly?
C: what do you do?
R: I have a long list, please tell me what you want and I will tell you if I can help you.
C: I have never been with a guy, and would like to have an initiation to man to man encounters.
R: is there something specific you were looking for?
C: no, just some fun, nothing too kinky. I just want to experience something new
R: that's great, we could start with a massage and see where it goes? Nothing planned, just go with the flow.
C: that's perfect! And you charge how much?
R: $150 per hour, for the full hour, in-calls only.

From there we agree to a date and time, and that is the end of the sample call gone well (of course there are variations to this, but the best end in an actual appointment that is convenient to both).

Calls that are considered annoying are the type where the caller is attempting to have phone sex with me. It is quite clear where the conversation is headed, sometimes even from the very beginning, like the following example:

Ronielle: hello, salut?
Caller: hi, what are you wearing?

Stop.

Visualize my eyes rolling into my head. In my experience these calls, if I indulge them, are long, dull, with frequent repeating of phrases such as "I want you to fuck me hard, I want you to fuck me (and so forth)". When pressed for an appointment, they avoid the question and repeat whatever they were saying before. So please, no phone sex.

Blacklisting phone numbers:

Appointments that are made and which the caller doesn't show up is called a no-show. This label is added to their phone number and is ignored the next time it shows up on the caller ID.

As I no longer accept calls with blocked caller IDs, calls that are considered obscene will be blacklisted and no longer answered. This is a reality for me, as I have had death threats many times over the years. Getting a threat over the phone can disturb you for at least a few days after-wards.

It is ok to ask for specific sexual information, but the more polite, respectful and professional you are, better the chances you will treated the same way.

It pleases me to say that the vast majority of my calls are very civil and professional. Hopefully you will understand the act of answering calls from the escort's point of view.

A few last things:

Bargaining the price is also a no-no, whether over the phone or in person. Tipping is only done if you appreciate the service, and not tipping has the same effect of going to a fancy restaurant and not tipping the server. Preferential treatment is given to good tippers, like a server in a restaurant who remembers his generous clients. I am not trying to ask for more gratuities with this blog post, only to write about the realities of the transaction. Although escorts don't have an actual tipping rate like in restaurants here in Montreal (which is around 15-20%), usual tippers range from $10+, and I have a regular super-generous client who give me $350 for the whole hour, a $200 tip! The only problem with tipping is when you start, it is awkward to stop, since it implies a reduction in client satisfaction. Don't tip if you didn't like the service is the bottom line.

Some would say that the cost of an escort has the gratuity built in, since comparing the hourly rate for servers is not the hourly rate of escorts. But from my point of view, there are clients who tip and those who don't. If you were in my shoes, which would you prefer to have on a given day?

Please don't worry about this. It is not a serious matter, but it does come up when talking about work with other escorts. Most of us are happy that our appointments actually show up and not try to short change us. I get, at least once a year, some young guy who forgets his money and never ends up paying. That pisses me off, but I also believe in karma, so I have no choice but to kick him out and just count my lucky stars that he didn't pull out a gun (which seems to be the media's favorite crime; killing a prostitute). I should stop before this post gets any darker!

I promise nothing but love and sunshine in the next post, and put all this business stuff behind us. I am sorry if I have offended anyone; it was not my intention.

Have a wonderful day! Ronielle

Please review me on daddysreviews.com

2009-10-29T12:56:00.000-04:00

Several people are letting me know about researching escorts on daddysreviews.com under CANADA-QUEBEC-MONTREAL escorts. The most recent review is over 3 years old, and an updated website (ronielle.ca) and email address (ronielle@live.ca) plus photos are required.

If you wish to share your personal review on me, please do so. I believe participation on this review site will help escorts and clients a great deal.

Reviews have been a guiding motivation to be as respectful and warm as possible, even on days that I don't feel like acting like a good son. But the consequences of even answering the phone in a bad mood can be serious. So diplomacy is required at all times.

These reviews are completely out of my control, so you should understand that I am not affiliated to daddysreviews.com in any manner. However, I believe a client should have a choice to speak out and be heard.

Speak out! We will be listening!

Swine Flu (H1N1) and Escorting

2009-10-28T09:52:00.001-04:00

Very scary, perhaps due to the media and the speed of information through the internet, is the prospect of catching this bug. One client this week has declined kissing with me because of the risk, although I don't have any symptoms. Better to be safe than sorry, but I did point out to him that sharing the same air is enough exposure to contract it, like past colds and flu.

In addition to the vaccine, I intend to supplement my prevention protocol with Chinese anti-viral herbs, which I have used before and trust. Perhaps it is not necessary, but they will be close at hand anyways.

Life is good, and I woke up with a spring in my step. I love my lifestyle, and enjoying the presence of my clients as time goes by. Relationships are built one hour at a time, but it seems that it is the minimum needed to develop something meaningful for both players.

If I could send this blog to younger self 10 years back, a lot of questions would have been answered. One of them would be: is this worth it? My answer: without a doubt.

Thank you to all, for an escort is nothing without his clients/friends.

How's that for thanksgiving!?!

BTW no one has indicated that they use rentboy.com to find escorts, what about men4rent.com? One mention of daddiesreviews to research escorts, but that's all.

Bye for now!

Comment on My Last Post: Client writes

2009-10-26T13:53:00.002-04:00

Hello everyone, Thanks for your replies! Here is one I selected and would like to share with you (with permission from the author)

*Quote*

Ron,

I am attracted to 2 categories of escort:

1) A quickie - usually this is a simple matter of lust and the attraction is usually just one or two specific qualities. Generally its a one time affair and it doesn't matter the persona whether it be real or made up. Sometimes I want a test drive which is what watching a stripper is. For me the lust is usually because the guy is twice as hung as me, which is an incredible turn on for me.

2) Regular get togethers - real persona matters with sometimes a bit of role playing. This is attraction but not just sexual. I will call it the "whole package." As you know my attraction for you started by seeing you in a Priape catalogue and then meeting you on the metro at the Outgames. Meeting the dogs, having pie with you all added to the overall package.

Different approaches work for different people. However I believe that using a real persona allows one to work "live" much more often. Its one thing to have a scripted persona in front of a camera where there can be 20 takes of a scene. But "live" there is no chance to do it over again, and the real persona will ALWAYS eventually show through.

The challenge I have with escorts is being able to separate the business from the friendship where both exist or potentially exist. It is always difficult to know if the other person would be as friendly if sex was not involved. I find it takes me 12-18 months to establish the borders, and the border that works well for me is "if we are friends, no sex, but I am happy to discuss business."

Always the best. *End-quote*

Here is what I think about it: Every session starts off as a quickie, but open ended. That means that we will take the relationship one session at a time and let it evolve on its own, if it evolves at all. No stress and pleasant times almost always helps to create happy memories, which is the number one goal I keep in mind when we are together physically.

Just like clients think about their escort(s) periodically, I do the same for clients. I think about them, remember them if they drop me a message somehow, but the more I see someone, the more I think about them. And thoughts of others are what makes relationships happen on their own. If you never think about someone, they probably are not important to you.

Until next time my friends!

Ronielle

Rentboy.com Survey: Who Regularly Meets Guys On This Site?

2009-10-23T17:03:00.004-04:00

Hello my dear readers! This is a picture of me in my Black and Blue costume. The Black and Blue Ball is every Canadian Thanksgiving weekend, and it is a gay rave (also called a 'circuit party'). Do to my exhibitionism, I had lots of fun. For some reason people reach out and grab my dick, men and women, to check if it real. I like that; second sense confirmation.

I have a lot to say but I will break them into separate entries. I am very curious to hear from you by email any personal anecdotes about meeting guys on rentboy.com . I love hearing stories about other escorts, and enjoy talking with other escorts about our profession. Escorting is a business, and without gathering information about the industry from first-hand accounts we fly blindly. My goal is to find a way to find out what makes clients the happiest, as well as for us too. In my opinion, a perfect session would be where client and escort both had more fun than expected. And there is a method to potentially increase mutual fun, and I want to find out how. When I find out, I would like to train the next generation of escorts who would be practicing the art of escorting. The beauty of escorting is that it is secret, intimate and comfortable, and feeling I proud for being chosen to fulfill this very personal role for someone.

Caring is required to find out what motivated a man to seek an escort like me. Direct questioning is not my way, but quiet observation and reading/responding to body language is what works. Is it just lust/desire/hormones? Or it could be a total boyfriend surrogate (or I'm the 'in-between boyfriends' guy?) Whatever the case, showing caring and affection is the right course of action. True Boyfriend Experience is what I am going with, and it gets easier when clients return frequently over a course of a decade (which would be the case this month for me).

10 years makes me a veteran escort, and I have witnessed so many men go from their 40's to their 50's, and 50's to their 60's. As we get older things change a lot, and age happens to all of us. Mid-life crises become more frequent, and seeing an escort during this rough time seems to help many clients.

Do clients like real people, or would they prefer to hire 'fantasy characters'? The constant debate between me and my fellow call-boys is "do you be yourself?" or "do you create a persona to act for work?" I would really love your opinion on this. I feel that I remain an escort after all this time was due to the fact that I use my real name, my face in advertising and I share my life quite openly with many people. Why bother inventing a false persona and having to play it for an extended period of time? It's not for me.

So, please write to me! I love your letters and I always reply within a couple days.

One last thing, check out some of my pics on http://dick.net/ronielle. It is a free site, and if you have a dick fetish it is right for you! Ta Ta For Now! ttfn! Ronielle

Facebook and Clients

2009-09-06T20:29:00.004-04:00

I love facebook. To those who don't already know what facebook is, it is an excellent website to connect with friends and family. You can share email, text chat, share media and broadcast anything to whomever you want. But when it comes to work, it can be an issue.

Most people I know on Facebook.com are family and friends. To keep things separate, I have removed all my clients from my 'friends list', since any of my friends can research my 'friends list' (which would include clients) and vice versa. There are things I like to share, but I feel that business and pleasure should not mix, at least on Facebook.

I hope you all understand, and no offense is intended to those I have removed.

Other than that, life has been good. Work is steady, and I have expanded my services to include doggy day care, since I already have dogs and taking care of a few more during the day would be both fun and profitable. My ads will be appearing in the next Fugues.

My vacation to see my family in Winnipeg was a success! I had so much fun with my family and friends, I missed it so much. I plan on going again next year, where I will be the MC for my cousin's wedding reception, of about 500 people. Wish me luck!

Vote for My next Ad

2009-07-17T17:00:00.004-04:00

Hello everyone, I change my ad in the fugues publication every month, and this time I would like your opinion. Please vote on the poll on this page. Thanks!

Ad #1
Calvin Klein underwear

Ad #2
Liquid metal shorts

I have decided to use the sheet of paper with my details on it for several reasons.
Some people think my picture is fake, and this is proof that I am genuine. Under inpection they will see that it is real. It also saves me the trouble of adding text after the picture is taken. I hope it works!

New pics done today!

2009-07-17T03:13:00.003-04:00

These are my favorite pictures from my auto self portrait session done tonight. Enjoy!

The Newly Painted Staircase and Love

2009-06-10T17:10:00.005-04:00

I have started a new painting project for my stairs, since I felt that the time is right for a new look. Taking time off to work on it is a privilege, and watching the process is something I long anticipated.

My ad in the Zip magazine is a full frontal shot, and now all my viewers in the gay village here in Montreal will know what I look like in my birthday suit. Here is the picture.

My research in penis enlargement has gone to depths as deep as genetic manipulation, which I believe will be the future of medical drugs. The obsession with body modification is becoming somewhat of a tool for knowledge, where I search and discover new things in pursuit of the rare and fabled 'Monster Cock'. Life is funner with a bigger dick, though!

Business as an escort, for me, is about providing the best experience possible for my client (first) and myself (second), in relation to the amount of compensation. To accomplish this, I dig deep into myself and believe I am in love with my client. Saying 'I love you' becomes a natural thing to say, and I do share that phrase with my clients. We all have the need to love someone, as well as to feel loved by someone. The main obstacle in getting to this state is logic. It wouldn't be logical to love someone who is being paid for his services. I agree.

Why should a client fall in love with an escort like me? Here is my reason why: because the emotions of love are real, and can bring joy to other areas of your life, even with your other relationships. And the escorting session becomes that much better, and I get to like you more each time we meet. Isn't that what makes a good relationship, where we enjoy each others' company and the time together is top quality. I think that practicing to be in love is a skill, because you discover more about what makes you happy in life.

Enough about that, why don't I end it with another picture I took a few weeks ago.
Enjoy!

Kissing Tips

2009-05-01T13:57:00.007-04:00

When kissing, it is important to know a few things:

Lips------use these to kiss, do not bite them, and use them to cover your teeth when kissing and sucking. Exercise them regularly to avoid tired lips

Tongue----use to taste and lick, avoid biting and to protect your own teeth from hurting your partner. Exercising this muscle to lengthen and strengthen

Teeth-----avoid rubbing your teeth on lips, genitals and skin unless asked to do so. Pain when not wanted can really dampen the mood and put the victim on self-defense

Breath----not a big issue, as long as at least one partner has a mint candy in his mouth. One mint can freshen two mouths kissing, even without sharing (keep the mint whole, don't crunch on them!)

Beard-----along with teeth, beards (especially one day growth) can be mildly uncomfortable to downright welting of the skin, especially if rubbed hard on the top lip continuously, kissing along the body while dragging your stubbly chin can make anyone jump (imagine a iron wool scouring pad during lovemaking, simply inappropriate!), or rubbed back and forth on the head of the penis (yikes!) Be conscious of the state of hair growth and adjust lovemaking style to avoid discomfort to your lover

Suction---- I think I mentioned in another post, but this is pretty serious. Sucking can cause bruising on the skin, and sucking on a lip or tongue is painful, especially if accompanied with teeth. There is no need to suck, even for oral sex. Oral sex should be like enjoying a Popsicle without biting it. By avoiding teeth, limiting suction and careful positioning can prolong the enjoyment of the popsicle, as well as the one receiving oral sex.

Jaw opening----There is no need to kiss someone on the mouth with your jaw fully opened. Doing so prevents your lips from covering your teeth and can cause teeth scraping around your partner's mouth. So close your mouth and open wide enough to allow a tongue to pass though, your own or your lovers'. Open wide but still cover your teeth when performing oral sex, because any hint of teeth is a distraction to pleasure.

The goal of this post is purely selfish, since better kissers make better clients, and less mouth-related injuries for me at the end of the day. I do not correct clients who are inexperienced because I believe in letting them gain confidence first, then gently, by example, show them how I like to be kissed. This method is the most respectful, since no confrontation is made that can sensitize the relationship. After all, pleasure is the ultimate goal!

Keep on kissing!

Drastic Measures for Swine Flu

2009-05-01T13:36:00.003-04:00

By request, here is a full-sized photo. I will not put all at the same time to help preserve the blog layout somewhat, however I will include a full sized photo with each new entry until I run out (or forget!)

On a serious note, as a health precaution I will screen each client as they arrive for respiratory distress such as nasal voice, coughing, sneezing, sniffling, and other outward signs of the cold and flu. Those with symptoms will be politely refused until their symptoms have abated. Many of my clients do not read my blog, so they will be informed at the time of appointment. Hand sanitizing upon entering will become routine, as I observed other escorts and masseurs had implemented this long ago.

I hate doing this because I feel I appear paranoid, but I don't believe in getting myself and others sick when it could be prevented. But if I was truly paranoid I wouldn't leave the house nor take clients at all!

Although I have now had my instant messenger contact information available for more than a week, I have not received and messages. It is still early, but for now the most popular ways of contacting me is:

#1 phone
#2 email
#3 text messaging

I would also like to know where my readers go on the net to find escorts, so I can place my new ad there as well. Any help is greatly appreciated, since it simplifies things.

Take care, stay healthy, and keep in touch! *hugs*

Removal of Picturetrail Slide show but New Pics

2009-04-24T10:51:00.000-04:00

I have to thank the man who called me last night to inform me that the picturetrail slide show that I posted last week has been removed and my account canceled, since they are a family oriented website (although I had nude pics for 4 years without problems until I used their slide show feature).

So my pics are now uploaded directly without slides, and hopefully they will stay up this time!

All except one are recent, and the results of my penis enlargement can be compared to my photo dated 2005. I'm happy with the results, a great upgrade every man should have! I have to buy new pants now, since often it is way too tight in the front and I don't like wearing tight clothes and underwear everyday. My waist is 31 but now I buy 34 pants to keep comfortable, although I need the waist adjusted.

My mom was in Thailand with me and banned me from wearing my blue Cocksox bikini on the beach again because I get too much attention. A group of Thai guys on the beach even confronted me and asked if it was real! I slapped my dick around and even offered them to touch it, but they refused and said congratulations instead.

The set for most of my swimsuit photos are taken at the Benjamin Resort in Kamala Beach, Phuket, Thailand. Kamala is one beach north of Patong Beach. We were lucky to find a great view and private terrace to do the photos. I thank Vic for taking all the great shots.

For you guys who want full size photos, I didn't put them up to save space. I can send them to you if you send me a message.

I would also like to mention that I received a box of chocolate truffles for Easter from one of my clients. He gives me chocolates several times a year, like a gentleman caller bearing gifts. Very sweet and thoughtful! I thank all of you who have brought me gifts, it really is a great gesture since it is part of my Filipino culture as well.

instant Messaging ID's for MSM, Yahoo and Google Talk

2009-04-23T15:32:00.000-04:00

As a result of exploring the application of new communication tools available on my smartphone, you can now send me instant messages on MSM messenger, Yahoo messenger and Google talk. Here are my identification names for each network:

MSM: ronielle@live.ca
Yahoo: ronielle.montreal@yahoo.ca
Google Talk: ronielle.montreal@gmail.com

Instant messages will be treated like text messages since lengthly chats on a smartphone is usually tiresome. I have only text capabilities, no audio nor video chat.

I wonder who will use this feature first to message me? :)

Hey Guy! New Slideshows on my Blog!

2009-04-16T15:22:00.000-04:00

Great news! I had new pics taken recently, played around with picturetrail.com slideshow feature to make some slides. So enjoy the new pics and tell me what you think!

This week I visited the 456 Bathouse in downtown Montreal with a client. This same client we have toured almost all the Montreal gay saunas together as a client-escort 'field trip'. What a great idea! We have known each other for several years, he even saw me compete in wrestling a few years back. Now we have only 2 bathouses left on our list. I am inpressed with the renovations at the 456 and hope that you bathouse goers enjoy it too.

Penis enlargement is still underway, with my current erect length at 8" and girth at 6.75", which coincidentally is the same measurement as my wrist. The thickness is a minor problem for oral enthusiasts with narrow jaws, but I will take something for the pain later ^_^

On that note, here are a few exercises that you want to keep in mind to maximize your oral skills:

Tongue extensions: stick out your tongue as far as it will go. Repeat to the left, then the right, up, down and rotate clockwise and counter clockwise. Hold each position longer each time, then end with total tongue relaxation.

Jaw openers: Open your mouth to its maximum and hold. Experiment to find the best head position for maximum openess, and remember that position. It will be useful to reposition yourself for increase oral pleasure of both partners.

Sucking tip: Go easy on the suction, especially on the tip (urethra)! Open mouth oral is much better than a hoover vacuum effect. It is nice to hear suction noises when watching oral on a porn video, but dick hickeys are not fun, unless you like pain on the tip of your penis.

Well, that is all for today boys and girls! Happy oral!

i'm Back to Blogging!

2009-04-07T08:35:00.000-04:00

Wow! What a long break since the last entry!

Let me get you up-to-date:

January: Went to Thailand on vacation for 18 days, was a lot of fun and had a photoshoot. Took some great shots for advertising in the Fugues magazine (a local gay monthly book)

February: Turned 31, sculpted in two classes and started going to the gym more seriously. I also followed a more strict diet. Work was minimal which made time for sculpting and the gym.

March: Took this month off from sculpting, and work was picking up. Switched from a 5 day workout week to a 4 day routine to allow more rest and to accomodate increased workflow. I caught a nasty 10 day cold from an escort who was called in for a threesome with a client.

April to present: Started the last sculpting class of the season, and increased my hourly rate to $150 for new clients. Regular clients have the option to pay the new rate. However, due to client loyalty, I will accept the old rate. The increase was asked by fellow escorts in person who wanted to standardize the rate at $150/h, and it was long overdue. It has not reduced the workflow, which is good news.

Video blogging is still something new to me, but it probably won't be my main media to communicate on this blog.

That's it for the moment, see you at the next update my friends!

New to My Blog, Video Logs (VLogs)

2008-12-25T14:50:00.000-05:00

Web cam hobby and Nude Modelling

2008-11-26T21:06:00.001-05:00

Hi Guys! I have been a busy body with posing nude for sculpting classes and for a web cam on xtube.com . I have always been an exhibitionist, but with the satisfying results of my penis enlargement program I must admit things have changed. I don't wear underwear anymore so I can hang down my leg. And I pull my pants down to anyone who asks me (when appropriate!). Basically its more fun being hung!

I will post some of the students' work here. These are not my sculptures! I will post my work in a separate post.

For those who want to see me pose nude in person, I will be at a sculpting demonstration
on December 4-5 at La Loggia B&B, 1637 Amherst st. from 4pm to 8pm. It is open to those interested in learning this type of sculpting, as well as those who are interested in meeting me in a semi-private setting for the first time. This would be a great opportunity to see what I do outside of escorting, as well as some of my own work.

So starting with posing nude for sculpting classes, I have moved on to paid chat rooms as a host, for your entertainment/diversions. I have interacted with a few guys, one of which asked me to dress in leather and be his master. I had a blast! My schedule is every night from 10pm to 11pm this week.

One of the best things about escorting is that I have very good relationships with my clients. Caring about someone can take on many different forms, and including sexual intimacy is my way of caring. When making love it is possible to feel someone's hurt. Being extra kind and tender at this time can speed the recovery, which is something that I am very aware of. But when a client feels my hurts and pains, I notice he is being extra kind and tender to me. Healing goes both ways.

Delaying Orgasm for more control

2008-10-18T14:51:00.000-04:00

In a recent email, a potential client has asked me about lasting longer sexually. Here is my response:

Delaying orgasm involves timing, understanding the pleasurable sensations coursing through your body, and the desire to control when you want to cum. The basic idea is to stop stimulation before going over, and to allow your excitement to go up and down like a roller coaster many times before you decide to finish. This takes lots of practice, and the next time you decide to jack off, ask yourself this: should I train sexually or just cum?

Having a goal of 10 minutes or longer is easily achieved if you pace yourself with the stimulation, allowing your erection to 'free fall', which means taking your hands off and letting it flop without touching it. When you are back in control, start again until you get close, then free fall again. This is actually fun for me to do on myself and others, because I know that when I finally go all the way it will be well worth the trouble!

Showing control over your own body also adds an attractive element when with another person, since it implies that you want to prolong your fun with your partner. An important thing to remember is that you ejaculate when you want to, not to always have marathon sex. Getting too tired to continue is not usually fun, and marathons require the participants to be in top physical shape. Quickies are fun too, if taken in context. Variety is best. Hope this helps!

Disconnection of email services forces text messaging experiment

2008-10-04T19:29:00.000-04:00

My usual ronielle@videotron.ca account is not working, and will take some time to fix. In the mean time I would suggest sending me:

-a text message via cell phone or
-email at 5148171169@msg.telus.com or
-ron@ronielle.ca.

If you had recently sent me email in the past few days, chances are I didn't receive them. What is new with me?

-posing nude for individual and group sculpting lessons
-sculpting lessons begin next week
-putting together notes of what I know to create a technical manual of things I have learned in the past 30 years, mostly about love, sex, relationship evolution and escorting. I will mix personal anecdotes with the technical information, and hopefully anyone wishing to research more on me and my escorting philosophy can enjoy this ebook.

Other than waiting for the internet techs to fix my main email, all is good.

I started working out at a gym, which is the Nautilus in the village on St Andre. So if you see me there, please feel free to say hi and an introduction. Many times people have approached me with familiarity, but to me he was a total stranger. I enjoy meeting new people, and unless we are meeting by appointment I am not actively searching for new clients. Having a reputation as the local escort is not always good, but since it is true I tend to stick to my workout unless approached. One time I started a conversation with someone it blew up in my face: they told me they new I was a hooker and to get lost. I wasn't insulted, but I told him that my clients contact me directly: I never physically look for clients.

The showers are not very fun since each shower head is in a private booth with a curtain. I prefer open showers, like when I was in the army. If I leave it open to look at other people and let them look at me, I feel like a naughty boy. Quick glances at each other's penis is fun, but most guys hide their dicks. Unlike me, who is an exhibitionist.

Next weekend is a party weekend, starting with the Military ball at Metropolis, and the Black and Blue Ball at the Palais des congres. Again, if you see me, please say hi! I will probably be wearing next to nothing, so look for the almost naked filipino guy with bleach blond hair!

Until next time!

Balancing Life

2008-09-27T17:16:00.000-04:00

Like anyone who has had personal relationships, love poses much risk of hurt and pain as well as pleasure and bliss. It is the stone that is tossed into the pond, sending ripples in all direction, which take some time to settle down again. My life is filled with relationships, and I have always wished that I had a master escort to apprentice to to help me understand the nuances of my career. That is what makes my job lonely. Where are my peers? Mentors? Once in a while I meet other escorts, but we are not used to talking shop. Most independent escorts are self-taught to do their job. But is anyone out there willing to share their experiences to the less experienced like me?

Coming back to love, I will share a little secret about me. When I am happily in love, I spread it easily to my clients. When things go down in my personal life, it makes it that much harder to show my clients love. To me this is normal, since I have emotions and emotions are necessary for me to connect with clients. Fluctuations in energy levels are normal, and in my experience staying happily in love requires a lot of energy when compatibility and practicality are known issues. Is love enough to sustain a relationship?

My relationships with clients are fun. Guys come over looking for a good time, so I don't have to see how they behave all the time. I see the best of that man for a duration, and I am on my best behaviour as well. So in a matter of speaking, quality time is maximized with escort-client relationships. Provided of course that the client becomes a regular visitor.

So, relationships take time (a valuable commodity to invest for most people). If clients have more quality time with escorts than with non-escorts, why does society look down on such relationships? I think it is because society does not want to admit that people like me are important because we do their (relationship) stuff better than them. I could be wrong. Maybe if there was a university giving out degrees in Escorting we would be taken more seriously (the importance of a document is not to be underestimated!).

I am happy when my life is balanced. Work, play and health are in constant flux, and when one is unbalanced the others compensate. If I work too hard, I take some time for myself. Too many responsibilities? I find a way to lessen the load. Health issues? I find out what to do about it. Basically help yourself find a balance in your life, and maybe happiness will find its way to you too.

Balancing love? What is that? Sometime to keep love strong we must give it space to grow. Doing everything with the same person all the time can definitely strain an otherwise loving relationship. Too much time together can wear out the excitement that drives passion, to the point that obligation and responsibility takes the place of love as the binding element in a relationship. Perhaps moderation in all things is the safest bet, including time with those we love.

I love falling in love. It is a drug, and when it is gone I am in withdrawal. No matter how much it hurts I am never afraid to let it happen to me again. But one thing for sure, I always learn from my experiences, and it makes me a better lover. A positive attitude ripples through all you do, even if you don't even notice it.

Back to Blogging!

2008-09-09T08:51:00.000-04:00

Hi everyone! I'm back, after a long break. I was apprenticing two days a week with my sculpting teacher, and my mom came to live with me for the whole summer. I received lots of family and friends this year, as well as constructing new things around the apartments. Busy busy busy!

My day starts early today. I have apointments made by phone, text messaging and email, so I rely heavily on my new Blackberry to keep me connected, although I leave it off 2 days/week so I have some semblence of a weekend, even if it is not saturday and sunday like most people.

I have also been doing a lot of thinking about this coming year, and projects on the backburner are warming up. I have been exploring the idea of being a webcam model, however I don't personally know anyone who does it, or uses their service. I'm talking about the pay-per-minute webcam sex sites. If anyone can give me first-hand info about it, please contact me! I'm ready to go deeper into this subject.

Thanks for reading, and have a positive attitude today. I love you all!

Sharing Fantasies- Strategic Approaches

2008-05-28T15:09:00.000-04:00

Personal fantasies should not be told to everyone without preparation, as revealing innermost secrets can make one vulnerable to negative comments. I believe that keeping at least one fantasy to yourself and never revealing or acting upon it can actually be useful in sex. Where some fantasies can be dangerous or illegal, acting out on them would not be a good idea, but such fantasies are useful nonetheless.

I have a lot of fantasies. They are my deck of cards available to me while having sex. I review them, and imagery flood my mind. I build a house of cards made from my fantasies, and at the moment of orgasm I let them all fall down with spent pleasure. Some of my fantasies are ones shared from previous sex partners, so originality is not so important in this case, unless your current fantasies are over-used and need some spicing up.

How to share your deepest desires? Tell it like a bedtime story. Don't mention 'fantasies' (to prevent a fantasy-lockdown instinct). If your communication with your partner is good, take turns listening and talking. You don't need to mention that it is your deepest fantasy unless you want to. I would suggest even to start the story-telling time with something that you feel is mildly stimulating, working your way up in intensity. Being naked helps, and if you are both guys (I don't think I have any women readers, do I?) casual playing with each other's cock with no specific goal can help gauge excitement (let's call it an excite-ometer). If your partner is silent, or not offering any of their fantasies, you can 'forget' what happens next and ask them what would be the next part.

Anti-Depressants and Escorting

2008-04-24T14:42:00.000-04:00

No, I'm not depressed, nor am I taking anti-depressants. However, some of my clients do. I am aware that these and other drugs can alter the way someone responds physically to sex, i.e. negatively affected erections. Now, consider this: how would you feel if you came to see someone for physical intimacy, yet was not able to have/maintain an erection? It all depends on how important we make the erection. If we diminish erections to,"if it happens, it happens", the stress is off and we can both focus on feeling good. I enjoy touching and grabbing penises, hard and soft. The experience is different, but both feel good. Touching each other is the technique, focusing on the point of contact by both is being in the present moment.

From time to time I meet someone on dick-destroying meds. We have a great time because the focus of our time together is on having a great time, no matter what happens. Although you may want to mention to your doctor what the pills are doing to you, because there may be alternatives available with different side effects.

I meet so many guys with different health conditions. Everyone needs genuine human intimate contact, which could be the most healing of all. People with a medical condition that would prevent them from making new intimate friends for fear of rejection should know that a good escort is professional, and once the discovery is made we continue with the fun. Sessions go better once the air is cleared, and worries are let go.

Here's a tip for the day: reduce your thought clutter by one less worry.

Take care!

Birthday bash a hit!

2008-02-20T17:21:00.000-05:00

It has been about a month since I last wrote. I'm now 30 years old, and excited about my new year. Sculpting is my big thing now, which for me is really an extension of massage therapy and bodybuilding. My age has not affected my work, although now I can state that I have a decade of experience to share.

My party was great; a wine and cheese evening with friends old and new. No clients have attended. I'm not sure how to interpret it. Perhaps I should keep my social gatherings to my non-client friends to keep pressure of my clients who want to please me. Attending a party out of social obligation doesn't inspire me to have a good time.

On an escorting note, my new ad in the Fugues magazine has brought me new clients who are seeking sexual reassurance. Now this means that they wanted me to grade them on their sexual performance. I don't give people grades, but I do honestly tell them (only if they ask specifically for it) what I liked and what I didn't like. This is a really touchy subject. One comment I would like people to be aware of is excessively long pubic hair, which is problematic in oral sex, as well as a completely shaved pubic area, which is rough to the touch and can give stubble burn.

Attempting to go in as much positions as possible can be very uncomfortable, which can ultimately lead to a loss of pleasure. Sensing when your partner is in an uncomfortable position is a skill that takes practice. Making love is about feeling good, and sensing when your partner is feeling good is a reward for a technique well done.

But escorting is more than sexual techniques and positions. For me it is about intimacy and affection, things that people need once in a while to balance out everyday stress. Having a good time with someone you like is something to look forward to after a period of time. The joy of escorting is that a client chooses to be with me to have a good time with. I make your day, and you make mine! How can this be wrong? (you don't need to answer that!)

New Years Party 2008

2008-01-07T13:07:00.001-05:00

I had a wonderful time this new years eve. I had around 25 guests the entire night, until 4am. Four clients have partied with me and my friends, which to date is a record.

I love entertaining at home. In Winnipeg I would have dinner parties and cocktails with my family and friends, and this time I opened up my home to friends and their friends, with wonderful results. I don't think I have had a better new years than this.

Creating cocktails for people is a passion, and this year the cocktail of the moment was the Mojito. I learned it from the Bacardi rum website. It was a hit for the most part. But the real success was the turkey, whose breast was so moist that juice was actually dripping from it as it was sliced. I am a big turkey fan, and this time I used a different protocol that is now my standard proven way of roasting turkey.

But this blog is about escorting, so I will focus on how my clients interacted with my personal friends. In a way, I am including my close clients with my close friends, and even now the line is becoming blurred. How great I felt, surrounded with friends, in my own home, on what I make a special occasion. The clients who were present made me happy just by being there. Why did it make me happy? Because I was important enough to celebrate new years eve with, and to accept my hospitality. Good times and merry making are worth more than gold.

Although I don't expect clients to accept my invitations to social get-togethers, when they are accepted I am truly pleased. When I invite, it is because I want to, not because I feel obligated. Guilt doesn't affect me as much as most people I know. I hope that for my 30th birthday on the 15th of February will have a even bigger turnout. This is an open invitation to those reading. Let me know and we will talk.

Unfortunately the party left me with a small cold, which forced me to cancel all my appointment early in the new year until now. Oh well, I should be at 100% when I return from Cuba on the 19th of January.

Much metta to you all for the New Year and beyond!
(metta: loving kindness without possessiveness, jealousy or conditions)

Parties

2007-12-18T14:26:00.000-05:00

What a fun weekend! As expected, no clients have showed up, but the open invitation was worth the try. My friends have brought other friends, and the party was up in no time until 3am. I have invited them all for the 31st for New Years Eve. I really enjoyed entertaining a large group of people, and mixing drinks was really fun. I did get a hangover, and many others too, but getting drunk was something I wanted to do.

The open invitation is still open for my next party, so those who are thinking about it have some time. I do ask that everybody be themselves, keep it real, and leave the 'fake' real world behind. We talked about so many things, and the crowd was diverse enough that everyone was talking. For those who are scared to mingle, just listen and observe. That is fun too!

For my first party, I am quite satisfied. There certainly will be more to follow!

New email address

2007-12-05T12:36:00.000-05:00

Hi guys, I have a new email address, ron@ronielle.ca as well as ronielle@ronielle.ca. After a string of bad luck, my luck is turning around and today is a new day. I am always changing things around in the apartment, and I realize that I have extra furniture that I can rotate when I feel like it.

Some people have expressed interest in the penile exercises. I was wondering if, just like weight training changes the soft tissue and bones of our body, is there any way to change the shape of the penis, ie make it longer and thicker? After a 3 year research on different methods used around the globe for millenia (there is so many historical references on this, from every continent and eras), I am firmly convinced that it is possible. However, it is as much work as making muscles, which the majority of men prefer not to do. I would like to think of myself as a sculptor, literally and figuratively, and as a professional penis worshipper (more on this in another entry), this research compliments my life wonderfully.

There are so many websites offering instructions on penile exercises. For those interested, let me know and I will show you how to do it in person. I would like to add that I find the process very empowering, and the potential confidence it can give to those who think their penis is small and feel hopeless to do anything about it. But it takes work and dedication, and like fitness and dieting it becomes part of one's lifestyle.

It is so beautiful and sunny outside, even my turtle came out of semi-hibernation from behind the toilet to bask in the sun. How does he know? That has always been a mystery to me.

Coming back to the party I will be holding on the 15th, those who are interested to come please let me know. This may be your chance to meet me and my friends in a relaxed atmosphere. It will be a mix of my old wrestling buddies, other friends, and clients. I want it to be a whole house party, heavy drinkers upstairs, calm mingling downstairs. There will be a few appetizers floating around, and drinks as well. You can bring your own stuff as well. Goal: have fun and meet new people. And if you decide I'm not your type, at least you didn't waste your money on meeting me!

I have never done this before, mixing everybody, open invitation, but I hope it works! It could be really fun.

French Blog Removed

2007-12-02T20:56:00.000-05:00

Hi Guys, I have been trying to post my blogs in french, but the blogue.ca website censored it and banned me from their site. Now I have to start all over again. Oh well, I will need to start it on monday, and work on my new ad in fugues magazine for the holiday edition. A mere stroke of bad luck.

I am planning to have a little house party in a couple weeks, and I need to put a list together. Who do I invite? What do I serve? Who do I think will come?

My social life is not very rich, where I know quite a few people but I don't have a lot of friends other than my regular clients. I hope a little party will be fun, and more friends in the coming year. I want to go out more...

I have invited a few clients, however I don't think any will come except for one or two. I understand. Sometimes things should stay the way they are for the time being.

I received my first gift from a client yesterday, a box of liquor -filled chocolates. Yum! We fed each other and kissed with chocolate mouths! I have been feeling childish lately. It must be the new vitamins i'm taking, or the osteopathic treatments. LOL

Exploring the world of penis manipulation for penis health (Penis exercises or PE) has been keeping me busy. Training the mind and body at the gym, you can also learn about the secret art of penis training. I don't want to go into details here, but mention it and I will blab away... it is that interesting. All I can say that the experience is empowering.

I have finished my first sculpting class, and soon I will have my work of art on display. This class was super fun, the teacher very motivated, and the class size was just 4 people. There were lots of personal attention by the instructor Joel Prevost. I will be taking his next course in february, and those who are interested can check out his page http://www.claysculptingworkshop.com/

Thats all for now, please come back soon!

Preparing for my 30th Birthday

2007-11-08T14:03:00.000-05:00

Although I don't turn 30 until Feb 15 next year, preparations have already started. I don't mean a party (I rarely celebrate it with a party!), I mean how my career is going to be affected. I have already lost clients because of my age (clients looking for teenagers), but at the same time I am holding on to many clients who value experience, familiarity and comfort over simple youth.

I started escorting after working as an erotic masseur when I was around 20. As an inexperienced escort I was very nervous, and I am absolutely positive that I did not provide the same level of escortship as I do now. This experience gained over the years is what I will be exploiting in my next advertising campaign, and thus a formal evolution of my career.

The business of escorting is a lot of work, and watching the changes in the Fugues magazine's Escort Section tells me that not everybody is successful. I believe that being honest in advertising (real pic, real description, real price, whole hour sessions etc.) combined with good customer service is essential to success. If the client leaves with the feeling that he got a good deal for his money, then I consider it 'mission accomplished'. I want to add that a good session leaves me feeling good, and a session where someone uses me as a piece of meat makes me feel like a dirty whore. I am human.

I realize that the my own personal pursuits fall in line with escorting. I have always been obsessed with my body image, and after battling a few of my own sexual dysfunctions (such as sex-addiction, erectile dysfunction, and intimacy issues) over the years I have a sensitivity for others with sexual issues. Talking about it with someone that you think could help you is a wise step towards addressing the issue with the intent to overcome it. Sex-addiction was a problem (before I was an escort), now it is an asset.

A new trend that is becoming more common (now more than ever) is the request for coaching in specific sexual areas, such as anal penetration, kissing, oral sex/deep throat. I plan to advertise this point as well.

The biggest step up these past years was realizing that clients can become friends over time. I find myself wanting to spend time with some of them, however I consider it awkward. I find it natural to want to spend time with guys who appreciate me, but the money thing is what keeps us together and it is what separates us. Life is funny that way.

Nouveau Blogue uniquement en français, / New French-only blog

2007-11-08T10:08:00.000-05:00

J'ai commencé un nouveau blogue qui est uniquement en français. J'ai remarqué que mon blogue actuel est devenu un peu plus long à cause de la répétition de chaque article en deux langues. La décision de laisser tomber le site (ronielle.com) a été par hasard, mais j'ai constaté qu'un site plus dynamique comme un blogue est plus intéressant. Êtes-vous d'accord avec ça?

Je remercie les gens qui ont pris le temps de corriger mon français. Le but de ce blogue est de communiquer avec vous, dans votre langue. Je peux mieux atteindre ce but avec votre assistance. Après chaque article je vais mettre un lien à la version anglaise, où vous pouvez le voir si a l'occasion que vous voulez vérifier ce que je veux dire.

I have just started another blog that is entirely in French. I have noticed that my blog entries were getting longer, because I want to express myself in two languages. I have removed the French text to http://ronielle.blogue.ca/. I have let the website (ronielle.com) for various reasons, one of which is that I prefer to have a more dynamic website where I can easily communicate to you. The entries in english and french will be interlinked, in case you would like to verify the content in both languages.

Ronielle.com website is temporarily down

2007-10-31T09:43:00.000-04:00

Please stay tuned as I correct some technical difficulties with my website. I wish to resolve the problem as soon as possible. However, this blog continues to be the main site I actively communicate with you, so as long as this blog remains we should not have any problems.

Escort Room Upgrades

2007-10-24T10:15:00.000-04:00

(la version française ici)

It is almost Halloween, and I have to make a costume to pass out candies. I'm going to make a wizard's robe like the one from fantasia (Mickey Mouse). Are you going to have fun for Halloween?

I just registered in a sculpting class for the month of Nov. It is the study of male neoclassical sculptures, and a beginner's class. If I'm good at it I will do more sculptures. I don't do art very much, but every few years I try something new. I really want to do more art when I get older, when I have more time, but at the same time I want to be good at it. So I'm starting my exploration stage! Do you have any artistic desires?

I've just built a new bed, and its is exactly the way I wanted it. It costs the same as a ready made bed, but I am sure of the quality and the specifications are exactly the way I wanted it. I even upholstered it in imitation leather. I read how to do it on the Internet and from the public library. I built it like a waist-high stage, and it is as strong as a floor. Ready for multiple partners and no squeaks, plus very very stable. Memory foam mattress too! Custom furniture is what I'm into these days.

I am debating about going to wpg this Xmas, since the ticket to go is $800. I rather go to Cuba all-inclusive of a week at that price than go to wpg, to be honest about it! I will make up my mind before the end of the month.

It's getting cold now, but hopefully my new electric fireplace will be here this week. It is a wall mounted type, and looks like a flat panel wide-screen monitor 37". I'm putting it at the foot of my new bed. Now that the Canadian dollar is strong, I buy a lot from the US through the Internet, and that is where the fireplace is coming from.

Upgrading my escorting room has kept me busy this passed month, plus my mom came for a visit for a week while she attended a funeral. A few people have written asking for more frequent updates on my blog, so my efforts to provide them are doubled.

A Plead to Coughing Clients

2007-09-20T11:53:00.000-04:00

(la version française ici)

I do not work when I have a cough, cold, fever, sore throat, cold sores, sinus congestion, headache, or any other symptom that could potentially indicate that I have something undesirably contagious. This is to protect my clients from catching it, and to allow myself rest to heal.

I would like to know my readers' opinion on something: Do you think it would be good for my escort business if I turned people away because I have detected a cough, or other symptom of a communicable disease? How would I approach this issue? I have refused clients in the past who had a skin infections, and open sores on their lips. But cold/flu season is coming, and refusing sick clients is something I am considering. Here are some quick facts:

-A cold lasting one week makes me lose about $1000 on average.

-A two week flu makes me lose about $2000 on average.

-A cold sore takes about 8 days to heal, and since it is an opportunistic virus, it often appears during a cold or the flu .

I know that some people believe that they are 'not contagious', or claim they 'just have allergies', but because of the intimate nature of escorting, I get sick too if they are wrong.

Please, as a courtesy, do not see me if you have or even think you are getting a cold/flu/whatever. I completely understand if you need to cancel an existing appointment. I appreciate the fact that you are trying to protect me, since I share that philosophy.

And if you do get me sick, I will send evil thoughts your way (just joking!)

Chamois Gloves for Soapy Fun

2007-09-11T16:42:00.000-04:00

Once in a while a client will show me something cool to try, and this time it was a pair of gloves used to buff up shine on a car. He used these lambskin gloves in the shower with some liquid soap, and it was soooo soft and smooth, which pleasantly surprised me! Enough to mention it here, and I will be definitely picking up a pair next time I see them.

I think that some of my reviews are a bit exaggerated. I have guys who come here thinking that I will sweep them off their feet without any effort on their part. That's like thinking that a psychologist/therapist etc. will read your mind and fix everything that troubles you while you wait. What my reviewers may not have indicated is that they knew what they wanted, had good personal communication skills, and wanted to have a good time no matter what. I can't force you to have a good time. But I will have fun with you!

Metta is a success, although a rather difficult definition to comprehend its true nature. Many of my regular clients already experienced it with me, and many more have asked for it without knowing what it is. Others have asked for it, but didn't really want it. Metta allows us get to know each other better and better, by acts of sharing quality time and personal stories, as well as other ways to show you care. That is why I offer it to those who ask for it, or by those I see who would benefit from metta. I do not like asking people questions about their personal life, but I am very open to questions directed to me. I consider myself more 'public', in the way I advertise my image, services and thoughts. My clients can readily become my friends, however more effort is needed on their part, not in opening their wallets, but by opening their personal shields and inviting me into their private life. I also respect those who want a purely sexual relationship, as well as those seeking companionship without sexual intimacy.

One question I receive a lot is, "Do you Top?" Although I have done it in the past, I have to admit that it is something that I really rather share with my special man. Reserving this for him makes both of us feel like we're doing something exclusive, which is a healthy anchor in a relationship where one makes love with others for a living. So my answer is, "I rather bottom."

Please take the the time to look at the new polls on this site and vote! This is the easiest interaction you can have with me and the other readers, and satisfies my curiosity. Until next time!

Long Time No-Write!

2007-09-04T08:46:00.000-04:00

Wow! Its been a while since I peered into my blog... but, as promised, I'm back! My brother's wedding is finished and over (thank god!), my mom is getting ready to sell her house, my 17 year old cat is living with me again (for those with cat allergies please note that the floor I receive visitors is relatively cat-free), and I'm fresh for the Back-2-School season.

Being away from Montreal gives me the chance to think about escorting in a new atmosphere. I get to tell my family how much I love my life and my job, and new ideas form in my head. One of those ideas is upgrading my 'office' by changing the room I escort. This weekend I moved my escorting room from the guest bedroom room to the master bedroom. It is twice as big, and more comfortable. It may not be as important for clients, but for me I like the new space and the furniture configuration. The street noise is also less pronounced, and it is naturally cooler. Next planned upgrade is a king-sized bed for a larger play surface.

Talking about escorting to my friends and family makes me realize how much 'business' skills are involved. But the most important is customer service... and I do admit that I could do a better job in returning telephone messages. I don't return all messages because of experience; if I miss a call by about 4 hours and call back later, it's usually too late and that is the tone I hear on the other line. Although I do not answer the phone when I am with someone, I think that the person present appreciates it. As for those who I didn't call back, please know that I am not avoiding you! You can, however, indicate on your message that it is ok to call back the next day or whatever.

Je veux aussi faire un effort d'écrire en français, mais je sais que mon anglais est meilleur. Mais je pense que les gens peuvent me comprendre quand même avec tous mes anglicismes et mes fautes. Je devrais juste écrire un peu pour pratiquer, mais la difficulté ce n'est pas le jugement des gens français « pur », mais c'est le fait que je sais que je peux beaucoup améliorer. C'est un effort!

I look forward to September and starting fall projects. The weather is excellent, and I'm ready to start a new exercise program. I hope to talk to you soon!

Text Messaging More Popular Than Ever!

2007-08-13T17:27:00.000-04:00

Wow! What a day of text messaging! Clients asking for more info, setting up appointments, last minute changes... much faster than email or voice. So, if you have a cell phone and you can text message me, do it! I will always answer, and usually faster than email.

I have a bunch of new projects in the works for the fall, mostly Internet-based businesses related to escorting, sex education and homo-type consultations. Basically I want to use the experience I receive as an escort to reach those who cannot make it to Montreal for a personal visit.

Stay tuned for more as it develops.... I need to think things through before unveiling this years' fall projects!

Travel To Winnipeg From Aug 19 to 31

2007-08-10T07:36:00.000-04:00

Just letting you know what my schedule is this month! I plan on trying doing some webcam work in the near future, as soon as September. I spend so much time in front of the computer it's worth a try! I will keep you posted as it develops, I have already sent out my application as a performer.
Don't forget to smile today!

A True Coming Out Story - Gay Life After Marriage

2007-08-08T10:00:00.000-04:00

This was found in my email this morning, I hope you enjoy it. It came from a married man, and this is his story.

[hey (Ron)...if you want to cut and paste the following...feel free to.]

" I thought I would add a story about the positive aspects of escorting. Having been attracted to men late in life and not knowing how to explore this, I decided to do what I would with other aspects of my life...if I wanted to learn music I would hire a professional musician, plumbing from a plumber, carpentry from a carpenter. In ages past courtesans were valued not only to teach the arts of lovemaking, but to provide a relationship outside of a traditional relationship. So...I decided that my first encounter with a man should be a professional one.

Ron greeted me on a cold February day over two years ago. I have reviewed that encounter before...it was friendly and sensual....very erotically charged with me. I engaged in male sex...but more than that we engaged discussion.

Over the following two years that discussion has contimued both inside and outside the bedroom. Ron has been a patient and enthusiastic teacher of the arts of making love to men in a wide variety of ways. I have come to recognise that as a lover I truly am gay....and through that have established a boyfriend and since come out to my family. Rather than create tensions this has resolved tensions in my household...I have learned that I can love people in different ways. My wife and boyfriend have become good friends. Both my boyfriend and my wife know that Ron has been an important part of how I have arrived where I am now, although only my boyfriend knows that Ron is an escort. He lives in California, and is comfortable with me seeing Ron in between our visits. I credit Ron with much of the positive outcomes to a complex situation.

In past times courtesans were very much an accepted part of society..this is described in Ancient Greece and Rome and throughout Europe and even in the Kama Sutra....where it was acknowledged that fulfilling all aspects of one's emotional and sexual wellbeing with one relationship was often unrealistic. We should learn from our past."