I have been working hard trying to make some new advertisements for the next Fureteur magazine (a montreal gay agenda/calendar freebook). I have asked some of my clients for advice, and that was when I realised that of my regular clientele (who have been visiting me for several years), the lines between clients and friends start overlapping. I do spend time with them, eat supper sometimes, talk a lot, without asking for money in exchange because I enjoy our interaction together. My clients, especially my long term ones, have really become like my friends, although if I tell them that I am afraid that some may they will think that I am paid to say so. I have some guys visit me weekly for years, and we confide in each other when we need to. So we act as friends. Will I still be friends with them if they stop paying me? That's a dangerous question. I feel that a frienship is based on mutual exchange, and if one feels cheated it taints the relationship. I know of guys who prefer to pay me, because they help me out in their own way while I help them out in my own way. But in my mind I consider them friends even if I don't say it out loud to them.
Last night my client (I use this word for clarity) asked me if I would go to his funeral. I said yes, if that is what he wanted. I am often the 'big secret' of my clients' lives, so I would never jeopardize our discretion by going to see them in public, unless I was invited directly to. That's it for now!
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