One of my long term clients (5+ years) has told me that he has to stop cleaning my house in exchange for escorting. (He offered to clean my house for a year before I agreed, since I hate cleaning). It was a barter of service. It worked out pretty well for a year, then he told me he needed to stop because every week he would come and clean, then for the next 3 days he would be thinking of me. It hurt him to do so, since he says he loves me more than I love him.
This is a difficult part of my job, when fun becomes too serious and unbalanced that it isn't fun anymore. But in any relationship, talking about uncomfortable issues allow an opportunity to heal. Maybe cleaning my house for services was not a good idea for him, since he told me that he wanted to clean so he had an excuse to see me in between visits.
I have yet to incorporate business with pleasure (associate with clients outside a escorting session), but it has usually a hurtful effect on my clients (in the long run). Perhaps any of my readers would tell me a success story where they succeeded in merging escorting and clienting together in a non-session context.
Please feel free to open a discussion on the blog, as I am getting a few emails that I wish I could share here.
Thanks for reading!
This is bound to happen from time to time...with some escorts (and I imagine with some clients) nothing affectionate happens in an encounter, just sex, which is cool for some, but with others the encounter and sharing can be much more intense on both parts. The "role" playing may seem to extend beyond the encounter, or both parties may decide to extend it anyways.
ReplyDeleteIf the feelings exist it is best to get them out in the open and communicate them and decide what to do or what not to do about them.
Personaly, with another escort, i have developed romantic feelings which we acknowledged, but have agreed that the escort/ client relationship still works best and we continue it and I deal with those feelings, in a non possessive manner. Both the escort and the client have to be mature about it tho...otherwise I imagine it would be best to break it off.
It sure makes for hot bedroom encounters!