Personal fantasies should not be told to everyone without preparation, as revealing innermost secrets can make one vulnerable to negative comments. I believe that keeping at least one fantasy to yourself and never revealing or acting upon it can actually be useful in sex. Where some fantasies can be dangerous or illegal, acting out on them would not be a good idea, but such fantasies are useful nonetheless.
I have a lot of fantasies. They are my deck of cards available to me while having sex. I review them, and imagery flood my mind. I build a house of cards made from my fantasies, and at the moment of orgasm I let them all fall down with spent pleasure. Some of my fantasies are ones shared from previous sex partners, so originality is not so important in this case, unless your current fantasies are over-used and need some spicing up.
How to share your deepest desires? Tell it like a bedtime story. Don't mention 'fantasies' (to prevent a fantasy-lockdown instinct). If your communication with your partner is good, take turns listening and talking. You don't need to mention that it is your deepest fantasy unless you want to. I would suggest even to start the story-telling time with something that you feel is mildly stimulating, working your way up in intensity. Being naked helps, and if you are both guys (I don't think I have any women readers, do I?) casual playing with each other's cock with no specific goal can help gauge excitement (let's call it an excite-ometer). If your partner is silent, or not offering any of their fantasies, you can 'forget' what happens next and ask them what would be the next part.
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