Balancing Life

Like anyone who has had personal relationships, love poses much risk of hurt and pain as well as pleasure and bliss. It is the stone that is tossed into the pond, sending ripples in all direction, which take some time to settle down again. My life is filled with relationships, and I have always wished that I had a master escort to apprentice to to help me understand the nuances of my career. That is what makes my job lonely. Where are my peers? Mentors? Once in a while I meet other escorts, but we are not used to talking shop. Most independent escorts are self-taught to do their job. But is anyone out there willing to share their experiences to the less experienced like me?

Coming back to love, I will share a little secret about me. When I am happily in love, I spread it easily to my clients. When things go down in my personal life, it makes it that much harder to show my clients love. To me this is normal, since I have emotions and emotions are necessary for me to connect with clients. Fluctuations in energy levels are normal, and in my experience staying happily in love requires a lot of energy when compatibility and practicality are known issues. Is love enough to sustain a relationship?

My relationships with clients are fun. Guys come over looking for a good time, so I don't have to see how they behave all the time. I see the best of that man for a duration, and I am on my best behaviour as well. So in a matter of speaking, quality time is maximized with escort-client relationships. Provided of course that the client becomes a regular visitor.

So, relationships take time (a valuable commodity to invest for most people). If clients have more quality time with escorts than with non-escorts, why does society look down on such relationships? I think it is because society does not want to admit that people like me are important because we do their (relationship) stuff better than them. I could be wrong. Maybe if there was a university giving out degrees in Escorting we would be taken more seriously (the importance of a document is not to be underestimated!).

I am happy when my life is balanced. Work, play and health are in constant flux, and when one is unbalanced the others compensate. If I work too hard, I take some time for myself. Too many responsibilities? I find a way to lessen the load. Health issues? I find out what to do about it. Basically help yourself find a balance in your life, and maybe happiness will find its way to you too.

Balancing love? What is that? Sometime to keep love strong we must give it space to grow. Doing everything with the same person all the time can definitely strain an otherwise loving relationship. Too much time together can wear out the excitement that drives passion, to the point that obligation and responsibility takes the place of love as the binding element in a relationship. Perhaps moderation in all things is the safest bet, including time with those we love.

I love falling in love. It is a drug, and when it is gone I am in withdrawal. No matter how much it hurts I am never afraid to let it happen to me again. But one thing for sure, I always learn from my experiences, and it makes me a better lover. A positive attitude ripples through all you do, even if you don't even notice it.