Times Of Stress

My recent visitor told me that his thoughts of me helped him during an exasperated breakdown at work; an unexpected compliment! There are many times during the day where I think of my clients, which I believe is normal since my mission is to seek out new relationships that ultimately lead to mutual benefit. I try my best to fulfill the role of lover, and part of that role is to spend some time in thought about that person.

Remembering past lovers can be very satisfying for both partners, especially during sex with someone else. Why feel guilty about thinking of other people while making love? To me, I channel all the passion from my past to build on the current moment. No one has to know but me.

Caution: if a lover asks you directly who were you thinking about during sex, consider your options: telling the truth can be devastating during this (obvious) time of vulnerability (of the person who asks). A person who is very secure with themselves would not ask this question. The most likely good answer would be to look them directly in their eyes and say, "You, and only you." (And derivitives of that, etc.) Never answer anything else except something like, "you tell me first" to gauge how you should respond. Even so, the bast answer is still the same (in my opinion).

Remember, even if honesty is the best policy, it can destroy a relationship easier than anything else. So keep 'honest' opinions and comments to yourself unless you are sure that it will make your partner feel good. That is the point of being together; to make each other feel good.

Enjoy the spring!

Ronielle